Dominizing Your Partner (3)

Well, this is the third installment on how to get your partner to be more dominant. I know there is no such word as “Dominize” or “Dominizing” but I think I am going to register it. I could use a nickel every time someone uses it! After all, what else would you call it?

Okay, enough of that. Let's get back to work, here. As I recall, I told you I was going to give you something to do that would be more difficult that anything you have done so far. Well here it is. You should pretend that you are in chastity, saving all your energy for your partner. That means NO masturbating! I know that can be difficult, but if you want to show her just what being in charge could mean to her, you need to go all the way.

Now the good part. The next time she wants sex, give her everything she wants. Act like you are done when she is worn out. If she asks if there is anything she can do for you, try this: Ask her to put some lubrication on your cock and then stroke it VERY lightly, and VERY slowly! If you get close to coming, you must STOP her. Edging is fun and you have to show her that it can be fun for her, too. Don't tell her what you are doing, just stop her before it's too late and ask her to let you rest for a minute before she continues.

Hold out as long as you can. Let her edge you four or five times before you let yourself ejaculate. You shouldn't ruin it, so be sure you stop in time when being edged. In the final approach to orgasm, ask her to speed up and maybe hold you a little more snugly. You should have a really great orgasm. Now, wasn't that worth it? I think she will realize what happened, but even if she doesn't, she will be curious. This is your big chance to talk to her about tease and denial.

Sit down and really talk about it. Let her know how much more enjoyable sex (orgasms) are when you have been denied one for awhile. Don't go any further than that. Let her lead you to it. She will, most likely, have questions about it. Answer them, but don't suggest she take charge. Chances are, she will take the reins without you pushing her into it. From time to time, you can suggest ways for her to tease you, sexually. If all goes well, it's time to show her some of the stories you have read online. Or maybe some of the websites that are aimed at the “normal” woman, such as Mistress Ivey's website.

Remember, don't push her. Let her lead you into the very thing you want. If she asks you anything, answer honestly. Let her know that you have fantasies, but don't push them on her. She may, eventually, ask you about those fantasies. That will be your opening! Don't be afraid to tell her some of them. Just don't tell her the really secret ones until she is ready for them. Trust me, you will know when that is.

Good luck, and don't forget to talk!

nemo