Even though our main goal is to please her, there are times when we fantasize about doing things a little bit differently. Maybe we want to use the key to masturbate, maybe we want to have sex the way we used to... just once. But whatever the fantasy, the reality may bring with it consequences that we are not really prepared for...
Monday, January 16, 2012
Sunday, January 15, 2012
I have recently read a number of blogs in which men were facing long-term orgasm denial. That, in and unto itself, is not much to upset about. I mean, three or four months may not seem very long when compared to, say, a year. What bothers me, is some of these men make no mention of the teasing they receive during these times of denial.
I realize that this is only my opinion, and we all know what those are like, but my wife (Mistress Ivey) has tried so very hard to make other women realize that teasing, during a period of denial, is extremely important.
I, personally, believe that teasing is the most important aspect of a successful chastity relationship. The type of teasing, and especially the frequency of the teasing are are the glues that keep the relationship alive. If denied an orgasm for long periods of time without any (or enough) teasing can cause negative feelings on the part of male involved.
I am sure that there are many who (especially if new to chastity) will disagree with me. But let's be honest. An FLR is not really just about the woman. It's about the relationship. Whether chastity is involved or not, it is a rare person who can accept that there will be no sexual contact of any kind. While I will agree that sexually servicing a woman is a form of teasing, especially for the chaste, I believe there are many, many other kinds of teasing that will help keep the relationship, and his attention, at a peak.
Daily teasing, even if only sexy talk, is something that works wonders in keeping a man desirous, attentive, and willing to extend the length of denial. I guess what I am doing in this post is begging those women who do not do much in the way of teasing to consider my words. To at least make an attempt to increase the frequency and, perhaps, the intensity of their teasing when they extend the denial period beyond a week.
I am sure I will get lots of disagreement to this, but when you come right down to it, you know I am right.
Posted by nemo at 1:34 PM