Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Know Your Key Holder

Just because you have been married for X years does not mean that you know what kind of Mistress or Key Holder your wife will make. Without a great deal of communication between the two of you, you really can't be sure just what she will do. Now I know that that is part of the attraction (not knowing) but you MUST know that your own limits will not be crossed.

This is where many people will tell you that that is what contracts are for. But let's face it, most married couples will just blow off the whole contract idea for one reason or another. Maybe they think they know each other well enough, or the have an understanding, or they are just plain too lazy to take the time to put one together. But whatever the reason, far too many will not have a contract.

Okay, so let's assume you are trusting enough to by-pass the contract thing. What are you going to do when your KH starts to neglect you and your needs. Or, worse, she cuckolds you when you “thought” that was well beyond your limits. It does happen. You should make sure that there is a way for you to discuss how things are going and what things you want to try and DON'T want to try.

Perhaps you never thought of this, but what happens if your KH decides she is tired of that teasing stuff? What happens if she no longer teases you at all. Are you prepared for that? Or is that something you want to talk about BEFORE it happens? You decide. I know the chastity credo is “Be careful what you ask for,” but perhaps it should be “Know your Key Holder.”

Just like men, women's fantasies, desires, likes and dislikes can (and often do) change. Make sure you have a way to adjust to those changes. For example, I know of one couple who began to play with chastity. The wife was reluctant at first because she was not comfortable being in charge. After only a few months, she began to enjoy being quite sadistic. She moved from the occasional hesitant spanking to some pretty severe paddling and whipping. They solved this problem by joining a local BDSM group where she was able to release her sadistic side on some men who knew how to take it (as well as liked it). She's back to applying more gentle corrections when he needs it.

So, back to my original question, how well do you really know your KH?


Monday, August 29, 2011

New Video Added

I have added new video to top of the list. It's a 15 minute excellent example of how to tease a cock using the 'barely touching' method. You will notice how the skin almost never moves while this woman strokes it. Although she does allow him two orgasms, you will notice how she does NOT touch his cock while he is cumming. She doesn't do a great deal of talking during this video (which would be a definite improvement) she does manage to bring him to the brink well. I found it to be quite erotic.


Sunday, August 28, 2011

Don't You Hate It?

Don't you just hate when they take you at your word? I mean, let's face it, we offer them the opportunity to do ANYTHING they want and what happens? They do anything they want!

Friday, August 5, 2011

What Do You Want?

What are you actually looking for in a Female Led Relationship? Have you ever truly thought about it? Have you bothered to sit down and make a list of the things you want a Mistress to do to you, or what kind of Mistress you want? Have you actually made a list of things (or types of things) you would want her to do? Or have you simply fantasized about how it would be if you had your perfect Mistress? If you have only fantasized, have your fantasies evolved? Have they changed in any way? If you have a Mistress, have you expressed these changes in your fantasies to her?

I know that's a lot of questions to ask. But if you are like most of the other men I talk with (including myself) you probably realize that you have let things go too long without properly defining some of these things. At the very least, you may need to update your fantasies. That is, your fantasies have changed or evolved and you have not communicated these changes to your Mistress. If you are one of those who had to talk your partner into entering a FLR, you may not have kept her properly informed of the things she is doing right and those things you would like to change.

For example, I have noticed that many of my fantasies now include things that, when I first started out, I would never have even considered doing, much less found them erotic. But things change. Oh I still want her to engage in a great deal of tease and denial, cock teasing, or whatever you want to call it, but there are other things I would actually like to try that she still thinks are a definite “no-no” on my list.

If you look over the list of questions I asked at the beginning of this post, perhaps you will find some things that you need to do. If the regular cock teasing has lost some of its thrill, perhaps it's because you need to let your Mistress know about the changes in your fantasies so that she can use the information to heighten your enjoyment during your next session of tease and denial. At the risk of sounding like a broken record, communication is the key to happiness. Make your lists, sit down with your Mistress and communicate to her what is on those lists. After all, how else will she ever know what you like/want if you don't tell her?

Just be careful what you ask for... You may just get it!