Friday, October 17, 2014

Why FLRs Fail

It's nice to go to some of the online forums and read what others say about how successful their Female Led Relationships are. But there is one other thing that always stands out when I do this... The questions asked by the “newbies.” The most common question I see is, “How can I get her to take control and do more sexual stuff?”
The answer is so simple you may never think of it yourself. First of all, you have probably spent several months, if not years, researching FLRs and how they are “supposed” to work. You have built this fantasy in your head of the perfect FLR. One in which your wife teases you almost constantly, she punishes you at every turn, she even wears a great deal of sexy clothing that she never wore before. And there, my friends, is the problem.
Chances are, your wife, even though she may agree to take more control, has NOT done all the research you have. She has NOT built up a fantasy world in her mind of how things should be. She probably doesn't even know how to proceed. But YOU keep telling her how she should do things.
Bad! Bad, bad, sub! You must realize that she needs to learn everything you already know. But if YOU try to tell her how do everything, she feels like you are still the one in control. And the fact is, you are! But that's NOT how it should be. We all know that. So why not back off, suggest some reading or research material that can actually be of help to her. Mistress Ivey's web sites, her books, even her couple's training if it is open, are all good places to send her. I am not just saying that because she is my wife and, of course, I benefit from it, but because most of the information you find on the Internet is extreme, to say the least. The Internet might actually scare her out of wanting to do it at all.
My point is, you have to allow her to progress at her own pace. Let her do what she is comfortable doing and be patient for the rest. If you keep topping from the bottom, chances are she will NEVER fully accept her role as your Mistress. There is a lot to learn. It will take her time to learn it. Even then, she isn't going to do anything that she is not comfortable with. So give her a chance. Don't push her. Let her go at her own pace and you will be surprised how fast she can progress.
Give her help in the form of knowledge about you and what you like, enjoy, are afraid of. Tell her what would be humiliating for you, what you would do ONLY if she ordered you to do it. But do NOT expect her to jump right in with both feet.
Point her in the right direction and then stand back and wait for her to catch up to you.


nemo

Friday, October 10, 2014

Ivey's Slave Training

In case you hadn't noticed, Mistress Ivey has started taking on long-distance slaves again. She did this for awhile early this year, but there were home/life problems that caused her to have to stop. But now, she is doing it again, but in a slightly different way.
If you want her to be your Mistress, you must choose whether or not you want to be locked up in chastity. Of course, you can change your mind and add chastity at a later date, or you can start with chastity and eliminate it later if you wish. In other words, she is now giving you more leeway in the type of things you want her to do for you.
Yes, you have to purchase tasks, but it's worth it. Most of the tasks are individually designed for each slave, so each slave gets a more personalized training. You also have to purchase orgasms if you chose to engage in chastity. There are reasons why she decided to work it this way. You can read all about that here.
Take my word for it, I have had to perform some of the tasks she has assigned to other slaves. I am sort of her 'Crash-test dummy' in that respect. I have to admit, from what I have seen, no other online Mistress does all that Mistress Ivey does when it comes to caring for and about her slaves.
If you have had a bad experience with some other Mistress, don't let that stop you. You can quit at anytime. The best part is that you actually get to communicate on a personal basis with her. That alone, makes it worth the effort.
Sometimes Mistress Ivey will play games. The tasks she assigns within the confines of the games DO NOT cost you anything. So you actually get more for your money than it would initially appear. She has limited time and must limit the number of slaves she can handle at one time, so now is the time to join. If you wait, it might be too late.
Good luck!
nemo (slave 7)


Monday, October 6, 2014

Being Mistress Ivey's slave

Yes, I am Mistress Ivey's slave, for those who didn't already know that. Let me tell you, it isn't always easy! We have been very busy the last couple of months, First there was a nice long vacation that we really needed. Followed by another month of readjusting our son's medication. Finally, Mistress was able to get the outpatient surgery that she had not had done for a year. Now that that is all out of the way, she decided to start taking on a few long-distance slaves. In preparation for that she need to have a starter list of various tasks ready for those men (and women) who wanted her to be their Mistress.
Guess who had to perform most of those tasks to see if they worked well... You guessed it, me! I don't want to complain, but some of those tasks, which will be assigned according the individuals needs and desires, can be quite difficult, especially when you are doing things that are designed for other people, which is what I had to do.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that her new slave service should be quite an experience for those of you take advantage of it. Rest assured, like it or not, I may be the guinea pig for your special tasks. If you have ever tried any of those other “keyholder” services that merely make you wait X number of days to get unlocked, you are in for a big surprise with Mistress Ivey's service. Take it from one who knows, every task is designed specifically for each individual. Give it a try and see for yourself. I think you will love it.
Mistress Ivey may not actually be there with you while you perform the tasks she assigns, but rest assured, you will feel like she is watching your ever move!
nemo

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Cross-Dressing

There is a great deal of information on the web about male cross-dressing. Now, of course, for a woman to dress like a man, there is no stigma or even much erotic appeal since you see little to nothing concerning that. But for men wearing women's clothing, the story is altogether different. I use the web, and what I can find there as a guide to what is popular (sexually speaking) and what is not.
Since there is so much on web about male cross-dressing, I thought I would look into it to see just how popular it really is. After all, if there is a great deal of it on the web, there must be a few of us submissive types who are into it. As a child I did sometimes wear my sister's panties. I think I did it more for the feel of the satin or nylon against my skin, than any other reason. But I also admit that there are times when I fantasize about being forced to dress up (to various degrees) by my Mistress. It is usually in a humiliation context, not as something I “want” to do, but more of something I am “forced” to do, for the humiliation.
I have no idea how many men in the world have similar fantasies, but with everything I see on the web about it, there must be a fairly significant number of men who either want to do it (try it) or who fantasize about being forced to do it. To be honest, I have even had fantasies in which I am not only forced to dress like a woman, but I am even transformed through whatever means into a woman except that I am allowed to maintain my male “equipment.”
I often wonder just how many others out there have similar fantasies, or how many really want something such as that to happen to them. I would love to hear from those of you have had similar fantasies or who have been humiliated by your partner by being “forced” to dress up. Please don't be shy. You post your comments anonymously, or you can write me directly at nemo(dot)slave7(at)gmail.com.
Please share your dreams and/or experiences with the rest of us.
nemo


Saturday, August 30, 2014

Things You Want To Here (or not!)

As a way of explaining some of what I am talking about when I say that there are things you want your Mistress (or Queen, Goddess, etc.) to say or do to you, I present this set of photos. These are things that, for some, would only be fantasy, while others would hope they really come true. Each of us is different, and so will have different views of each photo. Is it something you want here to do, or something you just want her to say???







There you have it. You decide which you would want to hear as a fantasy and which you would like to see come true. How you let your Domme know, it up to you,

Good Luck!

slave nemo

Monday, August 25, 2014

Approaching Her

One of the questions I get most often, and so does my wife (Ms. Ivey), from men is, “How do I approach my wife about this?” The word “this” can be replaced with just about any sexual thing a man might want to do. It doesn't really matter what “this” is because the answer is always the same.
Every man, woman, and child on the planet is different. Big shock! That's what makes our world work. I remember an old Twilight Zone episode in which a man was given the opportunity to see what life would be like if everyone was like him. Everyone had his attitude about everything. He found he couldn't get along with anyone, not because people were different from him, but because of his own attitudes. He realized that his problems were all of his own making and not the result of what other people thought.
My point is, there is no one answer to the question of “how do I approach my wife about (whatever)?” I have tried and tried to come up with an answer that might work on more women than any other, but there just isn't a simple answer. So here is my response...
If you want to tell your spouse that you have an interest in this or that, there are two basic approaches: 1) you can sit her down and have a serious talk with her, or 2) you can drop hints or little suggestions that will lead her to the point where she will ask you about it. The first option (talking) is the one I usually recommend, simply because I have always found it easier to come right out and say whatever is on my mind.
Suppose you want your wife to lock you up in a steel chastity device, but don't know how to bring up the subject. If you don't feel that you can come right out with it for fear she will laugh at you, or get angry because you are a “pervert” of some sort, then you may need to drop a few hints before actually talking about it. But I still vote for the direct approach. It gets everything out into the open right away.
The best approach is to tell her that there is something that you want to talk about, and you don't want her to laugh or put you down for it. Tell her it is something that you feel strongly about and that you need to get it out in the open. Set up a time, maybe after dinner, and then keep the appointment.
Start your discussion by telling her that if she thinks you are crazy or perverted, that you will simply drop the subject and bring it up at a later date. Be serious. Don't laugh that nervous laugh of yours. Instead, tell her that you want to do something to improve your sex lives and that you have a suggestion if she is willing to listen. Tell her that you will be willing to listen to her if she has any suggestions as well. Let her know that you are not trying to pressure her. You simply want to discuss the problem and get her input as well.
Don't get upset if she thinks the idea is crazy. Give it some time. In a week or so you can bring it up again by simply asking her if she has given your idea any more thought. Once you have opened the door to the idea, you will should find it much easier to bring it up again. Be persistent. Don't pressure her, but keep your idea in her mind. Keep her thinking about it. Maybe, she will eventually come around.
Slave nemo


Friday, August 22, 2014

Chastity Captioned Photos 1-5

Thought you might enjoy these. That and they might give your partner some ideas... (Evil wink)







nemo