Dominizing Your Partner (2)

Yes, this is a continuation of my last post. This is such an important subject that it will take me at least one more post after this one. So many men want to know how to get their partner to become more dominant. The problem is, you can't approach them in a way that will bring to mind the stereotypical images that most of the Internet brings to mind. To be honest about it, those leather-clad, whip-wielding, high-heel wearing, order screaming women are extremely rare. They happen to appeal to many men's sexual fantasies, but most men don't really want to live that way all the time. It's a great fantasy, but really? I don't think so. So is there any question why most women are turned off by the very thought it?

Even if your dream is to turn your woman into a screaming, orgasm denying, witch who will never even tease you much less let you out of your chastity device, you can't do it over night. Hell, she will probably divorce you if you tell her that's what you want. No, women don't really want that, and, if you think about it, neither do you. Not really. Now do you?

Okay, so what you want is something less than the fantasy we all have. What you really want is more, more exciting, sexual experiences than you have now. Right? You want your wife (or partner) to be more dominant. That's pretty normal. So why would you want to scare the hell out of her by asking her to be your Mistress? After all, if you want to know what comes to her mind when you say, “Mistress,” just take a look what you get when you type it into Google! So don't tell her that! Tell her you want to be a better husband (or whatever you are). That will grab her attention.

You REALLY need to talk with her. Don't tell her more than she needs to know. Tell her what you can do for her. How you want to improve her life by doing more for her. Tell her the benefits of her being in charge. Start slowly! Ask her to take charge of the house (which she probably already is) so that she can tell you what she needs done. Then do what she says. Do anything that you think she needs done. Do the laundry, take out the trash, wash the dishes. Oh, and not only that, but in the bedroom too. Let her be in charge without pressuring her. You don't even have to tell her. Just do it. Let her take the lead. Concentrate on her pleasure. Let her do to you whatever she wants, make it clear that you would like to please her.

The bedroom is your best place to put her in charge without her even knowing. You know what she likes. So do it. Don't ask or even tell her what you want her to do. Simply give her all your attention. Do all the things she likes until she can't take any more. Then, when she starts to do what she thinks you need, (and this is the hard part) tell her you don't need anything. Just knowing that she is satisfied is all the pleasure you need. She may insist and that's okay. After all, it's up to her! Right? But make sure you always put her pleasure before your own. The more you do that, the more comfortable she will become getting what she wants. You've made progress!

Next time we will try something new. Something even more difficult (for you).

nemo