The biggest mistake I have seen is men sending photos of their genitals when first approaching a woman who might be a prospective Mistress. First of all, women are NOT like men! Most of them do NOT appreciate photos of this sort. In fact, most women will reject you immediately upon receiving this type of email or post. So don't do it!
If you see a woman online (or in real life) that you think you would like to have control you, the first thing you should do is POLITELY introduce yourself. You can tell her who you are and what you are looking for, but by no means tell her that you want to cum all over their boots and then lick them clean. This sort of thing is just not acceptable to most women. They may, eventually, want you to do just that, but when you first meet (especially online) you should show her that you are intelligent, and perhaps witty, but not that you are good at groveling. You might also point out that you have read (I suggest actually doing it first) some of her posts and that you find her to be intelligent and witty (or whatever).
Basically, what you want to do is to get to know this person. Find out all you can about them. Then, if she likes you, and the time is right, you can ask if she would be willing to take you on as a sub/slave. But NOT before. If you are looking for someone to control you online or in a long-distance relationship, you should explain that. Don't assume that because she is online in some BDSM chat room or forum, that she is looking for what you want. She has her own reasons for being there and if she indicates that she is looking for what you are offering, then you can ask her about it. However, most potential Mistresses would prefer to know you on a more personal level. And if you are honest about who and what you are, you will have much better luck finding a match.
So don't be too quick to jump into the role of sex-slave. If the two of you are a good match, it will happen, but if you aren't, then keep looking. She is out there! You WILL find her, but you must be patient and always, ALWAYS get to know her and who and what she is before you throw yourself at her feet. I assure you, you have a much better chance by showing her how intelligent you are than by how well you can grovel at her feet.
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Good information here about how to find a woman on the net. Personally I no longer use the net for this, as it almost always ends up in long-distance relationships, which is not what I want. But I know other people who have a lot of fun with online dating.
ReplyDeleteI have heard almost the same thing from most of the women I have talked with about this: Before even looking at a new message from somebody they do not know, they check if a picture is attached. If it is a picture of a penis (way too common) or a naked picture, they discard the message without even reading it and ignore the person sending it. But if it is a portrait picture, it is considered an extra interesting new contact.
Both online and offline there are some good advice here about finding the right woman for you. Do not be afraid of telling her about you, but keep focus on learning more about her. Ask her the questions needed to keep her talking about herself. Men who listen attract women, and the more you listen the better you know how to play your cards the best way.
For a sub this is even more important. You want to know what makes her tick. And you want to know what can make you more interesting to her.
Do not try to sub to her until she asks for it. Do not be afraid to tell her if you want to sub to her, but if you push it you will reject a real dominant.