Release Dates

I have gotten many different opinions concerning release dates, of late. The question is, which is better, a fixed date or an unknown date? I am sure that one is not particularly better than the other, but most couples have their own opinions on the matter. Here are what I see as the pros and cons of each.

Fixed Dates:

Pros: Many people like to have a specific day that they can look forward to. A point on the calendar that makes them feel more secure. Secure in the knowledge that, unless other factors interfere with it, there is a date set when they will get their desired release. Sometimes, the KH (or Mistress) can make changes, extensions, or even shorten the period before release, and that gives her some flexibility. But having a date that the chaste can point to as the day he will get an orgasm, can be an incentive for him.

Cons: What happens if the day arrives but one (or both) of you don't feel up to engaging in the activities that would be required to insure a satisfactory release? That is, maybe the KH isn't feeling well, or at least not up to the task that particular day. Or, suppose something else (beyond your control) prevents the release and both partners are left disappointed. Stuff happens. Maybe a “Target Date” would be better. Something to shoot for, but that is flexible.

Unknown Dates:

Pros: An unknown date (at least to the chaste) can often be exciting. Will it be today? Perhaps tomorrow? If the KH makes the chaste believe that it could happen at any time, then perhaps his arousal will be higher. Or at least, he will be surprised when the day does finally come (pun intended). The pressure is off for the KH because she can choose any day that best suits her and her schedule. If she can't today, she can tease him and say, “Maybe tomorrow.”

Cons: If the chaste does not get the inclination that he might cum today (or tomorrow) he might feel he is being ignored. If he is not used to long periods between orgasms, he might even get angry or resentful when he thinks too much time has passed without the proper encouragement. This is a common pitfall. The pressure is on the KH to make sure that the chaste keeps his mind on what “might” happen and when. Sometimes, the pressure gets to the KH and she loses interest and then neglects the chaste.

As you can see, there are many, if not unusual, aspects to chastity and release dates. Many people use games of chance (dice, colored marbles or chips) to decide if or when an orgasm might be allowed. These can increase both partner's interest and arousal as well. People like playing games.

Whichever method you choose for deciding upon a release date, you must both work at making it work for you. If you, as a KH, are not giving your chaste enough attention, it won't matter how often you grant a release, it will not be satisfying for the chaste. I know that sounds a bit contradictory, but allow me to explain.

In my case, for example, Mistress was giving me an orgasm every time she took me out of the cage. That might sound great, but I was getting little or no attention (i.e. teasing) between times. If you are like me, you know that the orgasm is not the true objective. It's the teasing and the physical attention, that really makes it all worth while. Without that, chastity is nothing. Orgasms are meaningless, and life just isn't fun anymore.

If you are a KH, please, PLEASE don't let your chaste feel ignored, or forgotten. Make the effort to tease him in some way (if not physically, then verbally) each and every day. Even if all you can do is talk “dirty” to him a few times or let him see you in sexy lingerie, do it. It will help. After all, the more aroused he is, the better he will tend to your needs as well (even if you don't have needs).

In closing, I would suggest trying both methods to see which works better for you (as a couple). Who knows? Maybe you can find some happy medium to setting release dates.

Life is good. As long as you live it...

nemo