Release Dates

I have gotten many different opinions concerning release dates, of late. The question is, which is better, a fixed date or an unknown date? I am sure that one is not particularly better than the other, but most couples have their own opinions on the matter. Here are what I see as the pros and cons of each.

Fixed Dates:

Pros: Many people like to have a specific day that they can look forward to. A point on the calendar that makes them feel more secure. Secure in the knowledge that, unless other factors interfere with it, there is a date set when they will get their desired release. Sometimes, the KH (or Mistress) can make changes, extensions, or even shorten the period before release, and that gives her some flexibility. But having a date that the chaste can point to as the day he will get an orgasm, can be an incentive for him.

Cons: What happens if the day arrives but one (or both) of you don't feel up to engaging in the activities that would be required to insure a satisfactory release? That is, maybe the KH isn't feeling well, or at least not up to the task that particular day. Or, suppose something else (beyond your control) prevents the release and both partners are left disappointed. Stuff happens. Maybe a “Target Date” would be better. Something to shoot for, but that is flexible.

Hopes & Dreams

I can't really speak for others, but I suspect I'm not alone when it comes to the hopes and dreams of being in chastity. I talk to quite a few others who are in chastity (or at least are at times) and it seems to me, that no matter what the polls may say, not many really get what they hoped for when they first started out. That is to say, their dreams (mine included) did not fully materialize into reality. At least, not the way they expected them to.

Here's what I perceive as the difference between fantasy and reality:

Fantasy: My KH (Mistress, wife, lover...) will love the idea.

Reality: She may not love it but merely agree to it. Or she may love it. This one is a draw.

A Conversation with Charlie

For those of you who don't know, I named my cock “Charlie.” That may seem silly to some of you, hell, it's silly to me, but I like to think I have a good sense of humor and I often let it seep into my writing. For those of you who watch “TV Land” (or are old enough to remember) Charlie the Tuna was always trying to get caught by Star Kist tuna. But they would always tell him, “Sorry, Charlie. Only the best tuna become Star Kist.” So when my wife (Mistress Ivey) put my cock in chastity, I named him Charlie because his orgasms were no longer his (or mine), and when Mistress would ruin an orgasm she would say, “Sorry Charlie.”

I thought it might be interesting to have a conversation with Charlie and see just how he feels about chastity. After all, it effects him just as much as it does me.

Chastity & Masculinity

You wear a chastity device, therefore you must be a sissy. I hate that way of thinking. Even if I were a “Sissy-Gurl” does that truly make me less of a man? I don't think so. I don't let my (or anyone else's) sexual preferences define me (or my feelings about them).

How does one define masculinity? Is it the cigarettes you smoke? Or maybe the liquor you drink? Perhaps it's the type of dog you own? Certainly it can't be whether or not you wear a chastity device. Maybe it's the type of clothing you wear? If you think it's any of the above, then you are very narrow minded. Open up!

I don't believe in the superiority of either sex. Not in the REAL world anyway. Of course, you can make generalities about things like: Men are superior athletically; Or women are better at this or that. However, there are always exceptions to every rule (or generality). In other words, there may be a few men who actually are (based on behavior) less of a man when they are in chastity. But as a general rule I don't believe that because one wears a chastity device that that, alone, makes them any less masculine.

Expectations

As children, one of the lessons we learn in growing up is that fantasies are often more exciting than reality. At least, we are supposed to learn that, I think. I hear so many people say how disappointing something was when their fantasy became reality. For example, a trip to Disney World may sound like a dream come true, but once you get there and realize how much it costs, how whinny the kids can be, and that those characters you've always wanted to meet don't talk, not to mention the long lines and heat... Well, I think you get my point.

Life is full of expectations that often are not fulfilled by the reality of what we hoped, or dreamed. Chastity is no exception. Many times, what we fantasize about in relation to chastity, is not what really happens. For example, you may have wanted to be put in chastity because, in your dreams about it, your Mistress would tease you in many different ways, day in and day out. It may even have been that way when things first got started, but after awhile the excitement wears off and things settle into a 'norm' that is not what you were hoping it would be. Or, perhaps, you find yourself wishing you could just take the thing off and masturbate once in awhile because Mistress has not been teasing you regularly.