Training Your Mistress

That may sound like a strange title, but as many of you out there know, it is the male who so often approaches his partner about becoming a Mistress. One of the most difficult tasks you have before you, if you are one of those whose KH (key holder) has never experienced this type of relationship before, is getting this woman to understand your mindset without pushing her until she quits.

Let's face it guys, if you like chastity, and you love tease and denial, then your goal is to get to the point where your Mistress (or whatever you call her) can make you beg for an orgasm. But think about this carefully... Is an orgasm really your goal? Or is it just more teasing that you want? It may seem like a rhetorical question, but think about it. The real goal is not the orgasm itself, it's getting to the point where you really, REALLY want it. Isn't it?

Of course, once your Mistress understands this, she will thoroughly enjoy every second of teasing she gives you. But many women feel guilty not allowing their man an orgasm. This stems from years of upbringing and “normal” sexual relationships in which the guy always has an orgasm. Thankfully, not all women suffer from this problem, but many do. So what can you do about it?

In order to get her to better understand the dynamic of this new kind of relationship, she needs to think differently. If her goal is simply to tease you and maybe deny you the occasional orgasm, then she needs to change her goal. The goal of any woman in a tease and denial relationship (whether chastity is involved or not) should be to get her victim to beg for release. Not just say the words, but to really and truly want that orgasm so much that he will do anything she wants him to in order to get it.

Here's a little trick you can try, if your goal is be teased until you can't stand it any more. Instead of begging for an orgasm simply because she tells you to, try begging her NOT to let you cum. I know that may sound strange (or down right stupid) to some, but remember the goal... To get to the point where you will do anything for release. If you can exercise enough restraint to do this, she will eventually get the point. It's her job to MAKE you beg for release. Not by telling you to do it, but by overcoming your desire to hold out.

Remember, this method is only for those whose Mistress is new to all this chastity, tease and denial stuff. Besides, if you really want to get the most out of being teased, you have to be denied enough for it to drive you crazy, don't you? After all, what good is all that teasing if you are only going to cum in the end anyway? It may be up to her as to whether you cum or not, but if you really want to have a great orgasm, then you want to wait for it.

And a word of advice to all those KH's out there: don't order your chaste to beg for an orgasm... get him do it by teasing him until he can't help it! Then, deny him again, just for the fun of it.

nemo