Getting What You Want

Many times, what we want and what we think we want, are two different things. Sometimes we get exactly what we want. I'll leave it to the reader to decide. After all, Mistress may decide what we get, but only you know if that was what you wanted...

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New POT Video Added

I just added a super Post Orgasm Torture video to my videos page. It's the first one on the list. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did when I first saw it.

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Good News & Bad News

All too often in the world of male chastity (possibly female as well) when we get what we want, it's not what we were expecting. All too often, things don't actually go as planned. That is to say, what we want and what we get are not always the same. Oh, I admit, many times it's better. But for those times when it's not, perhaps the fault is our own.

Years ago, when I first entered into the world of BDSM, I quickly discovered that the single most important thing a couple needs, is trust. All the communication in the world can't help if there is no trust. In our rush to get our partners to engage in our fantasies of tease, denial, chastity and obedience, we sometimes forget to build that all important trust. After all, if your domme (Femdom, key holder, or Mistress) is someone with whom you have spent many years in a relationship, it's easy to think that you know them.

I don't know how many times I have seen guys regret their decision to enlist their wives, lovers, or whomever, in their female led relationship simply because this person turned out to be something unexpected. I've heard a thousand times how well someone "thinks" they know their partner, only to learn (the hard way) that they really don't know them at all. That's where trust comes in.

You can't simply trust someone because you think you how they will behave in certain situations. You have to be sure. Being sure means you MUST have rules. Rules regarding what she can and can't do. Rules that will protect you from her should she decide something might be fun, when, in fact, for you it would be a nightmare. I'm not saying you need a contract, though that's not a bad idea. What you need is a check list. One that covers all the things that she could possibly do, or think of to do.

One place that has a great check list is Soul's Haven. At the very least, it's a great place to start. You mark things the way you feel about them giving your partner a guide to what she can do, what you like, love, or hate. She can choose things that you "sort of" don't want to do and use them as areas of growth, taking you into them slowly so as not to betray your trust, and yet, training you to enjoy some of the things she likes as well.

Before you rush headlong into chastity (or even BDSM) take a few minutes to fill out a checklist and let your Domme look it over. You'll be glad you did.

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Other Times...

Other times you should think before you speak, or act (as the case may be). For example:

And sometimes what seems like a good thing can turn out to be less of a thrill than you first thought. So think again...

I Wonder...

All too often when we start something new, we don't realize just how much fun it really is. I guess what I am saying is... go ahead and give it a try. If you don't like it, you can always quit... or can you? Hmmm...

Sometimes...

Sometimes it's best just to keep your mouth shut!

Just for Fun?

You remember that saying, "Be careful what you ask for?" Well, if you are not into chastity, but you have been considering asking your partner about it, here is something to think about...

 

Think about it. What kind of women is your partner? Do you really want her to be your KeyHolder?

Now, sometimes, we think we know them Sooo well. But are you sure?

And did you really think those spikes would be a lot of fun, too?

...And are you SURE you know what you are asking for?

Precum Collection

Yesterday's tiny teases consisted of a series of bedroom visits not unlike any other day's visits. Mistress would call me into the bedroom where I would find her sitting on the edge of the bed waiting. As soon as I close the door she would demand that I “assume the position”. By that she meant I was to stand right in front of her, drop my pants to my knees, and hike my shirt up to expose my nipples.

Now Charlie is currently not locked in his cage so she has total access to him. Mistress began to fondle Charlie and his two friends very, very gently. “I have an idea that I want to try once school starts and I have you at my mercy for eight hours straight every a day,” she began. She paused, waiting for Charlie to react a bit more to her fondling before she continued, which he soon did.

As Charlie began to swell and harden in her hand she continued. “Remember that cartoon you have on your computer that shows a guy all bound up with his cock dripping precum into a glass while he is forced to watch porno movies all day?” she asks.

“Yes, Ma'am,” I replied as a vision of the particular cartoon entered my head. That made Charlie react even more to her touch as he began to get hard.

“Oh, look!” Mistress exclaimed. “Charlie's getting all hard.” And with that she stood up and stepped away saying, “You can pull yourself together now.” Then she left the room.

Later, when I was called back into the bedroom for another tiny teasing, Mistress continued with her little tale of video torment and precum collection, once I was “in the position” again that is. This time, in order to get Charlie aroused a little faster, she stroked him slowly and steadily as she continued telling me about her diabolical plan.

“I am going to tie you to one of the straight-backed dining room chairs with your knees apart. Your arms will be bound to the chair so that you can't touch yourself,” Mistress began. “I will do this so that you are right in front of the TV in the living room,” she continued.

By this time Charlie was getting pretty hard so, again, she stood up and left the room while instructing me to get myself dressed. I was beginning to see how this precum collection thing was going to go down. I couldn't help thinking about the possibilities all day long.

Mistress called me into the bedroom four more times. Each time she would give me a few more details about her plan. She was even planning to put Charlie in his cage to make catching my precum even easier. Besides, in the cage, every time he starts to get hard (when the precum flows) he will be prevented by the little teeth in the cage. That means that she will be able to collect more precum because I will constantly be getting hard then soft, then hard again. Her plans even included hooking the PC up to the TV so that she can show me some of my favorite tease and denial videos on the web.

I don't know if she will ever actually carry out her plan, but I will definitely be looking forward to it if and when she does!

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Tiny Teases

One of the many things Mistress likes to do to keep me both horny and obedient, is to call me into the Master (Mistress?) bedroom ( or bath) and tease Charlie (remember Charlie? She named my cock Charlie because she was always saying, “sorry” to it) for a few minutes at a time. I call these “tiny teases” because they normally last no more than three to five minutes each. She will do this several times a day.

What normally happens is I am ordered to drop my pants so that she can see Charlie and, if she wants, fondle him. I must also hold my shirt up giving her easy access to my nipples as well. She will tease me verbally by telling me about plans she may have for some future date, or telling me a fantasy of hers.. Plans such as cuckolding me, or humiliating me in some way, or even new evil punishments she has concocted. The point is, whether I am caged or not, she can turn me on and keep my mind where it belongs... On HER!

Normally, all the trips to the bedroom in one day have the same general subject. For example: one day she may talk about how she plans to bring in another woman (anyone she chooses) to help her tease and humiliate me; or she may talk about how she intends to go about punishing me in the future. All these little teases serve to turn me on and to give me something to think about during the day. All I can say is, they work!

In the future I will tell you about some of these sessions in more detail.

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I said I was going to be doing some things differently. Well, here is one example.

I would love to be faced with tough decisions such as this. Let's face it, teasing is the best part of male chastity. I have high hopes that, once our child goes back to school next month, I may get my chance.

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On Fantasies

We men, submissive or not, seem to fantasize a great deal. We can't help it, it's just the way we were made. If we continue to fantasize about one thing, our fantasies become real desires. The more we think about a particular fantasy, it seems the more we “think” we want it to come true. But as we all know, the reality almost never lives up to the fantasy.

Let's take cuckolding for example. I, myself, have a few fantasies along those lines. I fantasize, for example, that Mistress takes on a second male slave and not only has sexual relations with him (making me watch, of course) but also forces me to participate in a bi-sexual way. By that I mean, I my have to clean her up after the other slave has intercourse with her, but I may also have to lick (or suck) him clean. I think any other type of cuckolding would be too much for me to handle.

However, if the relationship were purely a sexual one, and the other male and I were on the same footing (so to speak) I could, most likely, handle it. But if she were seeing him on the side, or if I thought there was more to their relationship than just a sexual one, I would, most likely, get very jealous and it could even ruin our marriage.

I have other fantasies that I would love to keep as fantasy for one reason or another, but I love it when Mistress teases me about making them come true. So I always tell her about all my fantasies, but I make sure she understands which I would never want to realize. Open communication is the best form of relationship strengthening I know of. It prevents so many things from going wrong that I could not begin to list them here.

Just a note: I am going to change the format of this blog just a bit. I will, in the future, be including more of the things that are going on in our daily lives. Some of you have indicated that you would be interested in that sort of thing, so, one way or another, I will try to include them. Thanks for reading!

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Off Line!

Mistress and I have been off-line for the past 31 days, mostly due to circumstances beyond our control. The fact is, we moved and it took awhile for us to get an internet connection installed. But we are back! And we will both be posting again in the next few days.

Thanks for all your emails and your patience in our absents.

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