Tease, Denial and CBT

Caged Tease

2012-02-17T08:00:00.001-05:00

It's not very often that you find atease and denial video in which the ~~poor~~ lucky ~~victim~~ guy is teasedwhile still in his chastity device. I ran across this one and thoughtit to be an excellent example of what can be done. I thought it waspretty ~~erotic~~ educational, too.

This video lasts about 17 minutes butis a good example for both men and women of ways to tease a cagedcock. Enjoy!

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nemo

Sweet Torture

2012-02-01T12:02:00.001-05:00

Yesterday, Mistress really surprised mewith a little bit of humiliation. It all began when I complained thatshe had not told me any humiliating fantasies of late. That was threedays ago. As luck would have it, Mistress actually paid attention tome when it would have been wise and kept my mouth shut.

Back Mistress pretty much ignored meduring the morning hours, but she did inform me that she had inviteda few friends over at 11:00AM for little chat. I was not so foolishas to ask what they might chat about. I figured I would be servingthem drinks and snacks, but would mostly be told to stay in my room.That's what normally happens during these things.

Anyway, I was in for a big surprise.About ten minutes before her guests were to arrive, I was ordered tostrip and sit in a straight-back chair she had set next to herfavorite seat. Hesitantly, I complied. My wrists were bound to theback while my ankles were bound to the outsides of the front legs. Totop it off, Mistress ran a few wraps of rope around my chest just tokeep me from moving too much. Finally, I was blindfolded and my cagewas removed. I asked Mistress what she had in mind. But she onlyreplied that I would find out soon enough.

A few minutes later the doorbell rangand I heard three women enter the room. Mistress sat down next to meand her hand rested in my lap. She began to softly touch my cock andballs as she talked with the other women. He fingernails raked gentlyalong the length of my cock from the base to the tip. I was quicklygetting aroused. However, I soon became acutely aware that she nevertouched the head.

I kept being distracted by the Ladiesconversation. It was not particularly erotic, and the more I listenedto them, the less I was aware of the very soft touches Mistress wasgiving my cock. Every so often, Mistress would give a squeeze to myballs diverting my attention back to where she wanted it. My cockwould swell again.

Before long, the only thing I couldthink about was the fact that Mistress would not touch the head of mycock. It became first and foremost in my mind. I began to struggleand squirm a bit in an attempt to manipulate her hand so that itwould touch it. Just once. That's all I needed. My mind (and my lust)became obsessed with the head of my cock and the fact that, no matterwhat I did, she would not touch it.

By this time I was oozing precum allover the place. My balls were being covered with it. As the Ladiestalked and ate their snacks, I was in another world. A world oftorment. I tried to concentrate on their conversation, but I justcouldn't keep my mind off the neglected head of my poor, straining,cock. The fact that there were three strange women in the room onlyadded to my arousal. The humiliation I felt was becoming secondary tomy need to feel even the slightest touch on that little head.

Except for a feeling of panic and hopewhen Mistress offered one of the other woman the opportunity to teasemy poor cock, I could not think about much of anything other thanbeing touched in the “right” place. When Mistress gave up herchair and instructed the woman replacing her not to touch the head ofmy cock, my need to feel anything touch the head of my cock becameextreme. L could not think about anything else! Not the humiliation Ifelt, not the fact there were four women watching my naked body, mycock, squirm to be touched. All I could think about was my need. Mysingle need to be touched on the head of my cock. It was driving meabsolutely crazy!

If you have never been denied the touchof your Mistress' fingers on any single, aroused part of your body,then you can't fully understand the torment, the torture I wasenduring at that moment. Not moment, hour! Those women started takingturns teasing my poor cock. None of them would touch that one spotthat would give me relief from my frustration. Oh, I would not getrelief in the normal manner, that is, I would not be allowed to cum,but I knew that. No, my need was different. Different than any need Imight have to orgasm. My need was so intense that I would have doneanything, ANYTHING, to feel one finger graze lightly over the head ofmy cock.

As I said, if you have never felt thekind of need I am talking about, I feel for you. You don't understandhow wonderfully frustrating it can be. I was literally screaming,begging, and pleading for someone to touch me, just once, on the headof my cock. My poor, straining, tormented, wanton cock head.

The Ladies left after about an hour. Itfelt like a great deal longer than that, but I was never given therelief I so needed. Mistress left the room for a few minutes to bidthem all goodbye and see them off. When she returned, she did nottouch me. She sat down next to me and began talking. She asked mequestions about the experience ( the torment) I just endured. By thetime she was finished, my cock was limp, there was a puddle of precumon the chair beneath my balls, and I was exhausted. She let me sitthere for, bound to my chair for another fifteen minutes beforereleasing me.

She replaced my cage and released mybindings. I was extremely frustrated, and still could not touch thehead of my cock. At least not the way that would provide any relieffrom my frustration. It took me another half hour before I couldthink about anything but the torment I just been put through.

If you have never been through thetorment of being teased and denied in this way, I hope you will,someday, be able to experience it. Yes, it was torture, but it wassuch wonderful torture!

nemo

Captioned Photo: Pay for it

2012-01-25T07:55:00.001-05:00

Even though our main goal is to please her, there are times when we fantasize about doing things a little bit differently. Maybe we want to use the key to masturbate, maybe we want to have sex the way we used to... just once. But whatever the fantasy, the reality may bring with it consequences that we are not really prepared for...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Hard Choices

2012-01-16T08:36:00.001-05:00

There comes a time in every chaste man's life when he must make a choice. The choices vary, but the answer is always the same... More teasing! YOu can't understand it unless you hear that bone chilling "click" of the lock.

nemo

Denial and Teasing

2012-01-15T13:34:00.002-05:00

I have recently read a number of blogsin which men were facing long-term orgasm denial. That, in and untoitself, is not much to upset about. I mean, three or four months maynot seem very long when compared to, say, a year. What bothers me, issome of these men make no mention of the teasing they receive duringthese times of denial.

I realize that this is only my opinion,and we all know what those are like, but my wife (MistressIvey) has tried so very hard to make other women realize thatteasing, during a period of denial, is extremely important.

I, personally, believe that teasing isthe most important aspect of a successful chastity relationship. Thetype of teasing, and especially the frequency of the teasing are arethe glues that keep the relationship alive. If denied an orgasm forlong periods of time without any (or enough) teasing can causenegative feelings on the part of male involved.

I am sure that there are many who(especially if new to chastity) will disagree with me. But let's behonest. An FLR is not really just about the woman. It's about therelationship. Whether chastity is involved or not, it is a rareperson who can accept that there will be no sexual contact of anykind. While I will agree that sexually servicing a woman is a form ofteasing, especially for the chaste, I believe there are many, manyother kinds of teasing that will help keep the relationship, and hisattention, at a peak.

Daily teasing, even if only sexy talk,is something that works wonders in keeping a man desirous, attentive,and willing to extend the length of denial. I guess what I am doingin this post is begging those women who do not do much in the way ofteasing to consider my words. To at least make an attempt to increasethe frequency and, perhaps, the intensity of their teasing when theyextend the denial period beyond a week.

I am sure I will get lots ofdisagreement to this, but when you come right down to it, you know Iam right.

nemo

Captioned Photo: Cleanup

2012-01-11T12:04:00.001-05:00

There are times when what we want may differ from what we get. That's why our motto is: Be Careful What You Ask For. But there are also those times when what we get is MORE than what we wanted. So what's your complaint?

nemo

Xmas Orgasm

2011-12-26T09:01:00.002-05:00

Well, I am one of the many who got a Xmas orgasm. Okay, it wasn't a full orgasm. Mistress made sure I understood that it was a gift for us both. That is, I got to cum, and she got to ruin it. Whatever makes her happy. Right!?

It wasn't all bad. After all, an orgasm is an orgasm. I have learned that, if nothing else in my years as a sex slave. (Well, that's how I like to think of myself.) I don't know about the rest of you, but I'll take any orgasm I can get. Yes, I enjoy the fact that I am made to wait a good long time between full orgasms, but a number of ruined orgasms, as long as they make Mistress happy, are something I am proud to give her.

So, if you ask me what I got for Xmas this year, I'll tell you an orgasm. If you ask Mistress what I got, she will tell you it was ruined. One of the few joys in life for Mistress, is ruining my orgasms, especially if I think it won't be ruined.

Anyway, I hope you all had a very merry Xmas and I wish you a great New Year!

nemo

Xmas is Here!

2011-12-24T12:26:00.002-05:00

Well, it's that time of year, again.The snow is falling (in places) and the mistletoe has been hung.Perhaps I should have put on my belt? Anyway, this is the time forgood will toward men (and women, of course) and the time to givewithout thought of reward. For those of us in chastity, it meansdoing the unexpected for our Key Holders.

I will not reveal what I have planned,or what I got Mistress for Xmas, but I only hope it will be greatlyappreciated. I know it's the thought that counts, but sometimes wehope for more!

Like many men in chastity, I hope for aChristmas full of joy and, maybe, some “relief”? For those of youin chastity, I hope you get the relief you have been so patiently(?)awaiting, if that's what you want. And may your KH be kind.

Nemo

Not Being Teased

2011-12-18T09:04:00.001-05:00

As a sub/slave there are times when Iwish Mistress would tease me more than she does. You may think I amjust greedy, but there have been weeks at a time that I received noteasing what so ever. Now I know that it is entirely up to Mistressto decide when, where, and how I am teased. But frankly, there aretimes when I feel I am being ignored.

I have a suspicion I am not alone inthis. I have seen comments (and received a few) that indicate someother guys get the same feeling from time to time. I can't speak forthem, but in my case, it's a matter of mismatched libidos. That is, Iwant it, she doesn't. I suppose, if I were in a non-chaste situation,that is, a marriage that does not include male chastity, I might beable to sit down and discuss it with her. But as a slave, I reallycan't do that.

I have made the efforts. That is, Ihave done my chores, offered to pleasure her, dropped hints, and evensteered conversations in that directed. However, I have been met withthe same responses over and over again. She just isn't interested insex.

Now that's scary! I have to wonder, isit me? Or is it really her lack of drive? I keep getting told that itis really her lack of drive, but I have been totally unable to findany sort of stimulant that will get her “in the mood” when Idesperately need some attention. I always feel as if it's my fault. Isuppose that is because, as a slave, I always think there should besomething more I could do, but that really isn't the case.

I know in my heart that she is oftenjust too busy to bother tending to my needs, but that isn't alwaysthe case, either. There are other times when she just plain doesn'thave the sex drive that I wish she did, let alone one as strong asmine. I also know there are so often other things in her life thatdetract from our sexual togetherness.

In the past, pre-chastity, I could have(and often did) take matters into my own hands, and life went on.But, of course, my chastity sort of gets in the way, if you know whatI mean. So masturbation is definitely NOT the answer.

I guess my only recourse is to sit backand wait until she gets “in the mood” and be happy with whatlittle attention I do get. But I am guessing that I am not alone.There must be others out there who have (or have had) this problem.So, what have you done in this situation? Or what would you suggestthat I do?

nemo

Captioned Photos: What?

2011-12-16T13:43:00.003-05:00

I've asked "why" so it only seems right to ask "what" now. What, as in: What did you say? Or: what do mean? Or even: What have I gotten myself into!? These are questions we often ask ourselves when faced with options or choices, or the results there of, that are not what we expected. Here are some "What?" photos for your approval...

So... What do you think?

nemo

Captioned Photo: Why?

2011-12-15T10:46:00.000-05:00

Sometimes, because we want her to do things that put us in our place. Sometimes because we like to be treated like she owns us. But there are times when the 'what' and the 'why' don't really add up in our minds, but we must submit anyway...

nemo

Captioned Photos: How Long?

2011-12-14T09:03:00.000-05:00

One of our (chastised males) favorite fantasies seems to be the possibility of longer and longer periods of orgasm denial. I don't even know what the attraction is and I have these fantasies myself. I guess that's why they make such a good subject for captioned photos. Whether it's been a week, a month, or even longer, we always seem to want more. And if teasing is included, well, we just can't get enough...

nemo

Captioned Photos: Being Mean

2011-12-11T11:28:00.001-05:00

Almost every male in chastity that I have talk with agrees that they want their Key Holder (or Mistress, or wife, or whatever she is) to be mean. The problem is, everyone has a different definition of "mean." Of course, that includes the Key Holder. Therefore...

So, I guess the moral is, "Be careful what you ask for!"
nemo

Captioned Photos: Thinking?

2011-12-10T16:28:00.001-05:00

There are so many times in our lives when we wish we could read minds. Well, here are a few photos complete with those thoughts. But be forewarned, some times it is best not to know those thoughts...

nemo

Captioned Photos: Cuckolding

2011-12-09T10:50:00.001-05:00

Something that many of us fantasize about, but the reality may not be what we dreamed. Then again, it just might! Whatever your fantasy, I hope it comes true for you. As for me, I'm still on the proverbial fence. But here is some food (photos?) for thought...

nemo

Captioned Photos: Mixed

2011-12-08T07:42:00.001-05:00

I have saving these photos until I had more in each category, but have decided to go ahead and post them because I never seem to get around to making new ones like them. Oh, I am sure that once they are posted, I will come up several more in each category. You know how it goes...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Ever

2011-12-05T09:36:00.001-05:00

I hope this never happens to you, but there is always that possibility. Let's face it, we can't tell them what to do, and they so often find ways of tormenting us more than we had ever expected. But I guess that's what the thrill is all about. Isn't it!?

nemo

Captioned Photo - Trouble

2011-12-03T09:47:00.001-05:00

Have you done something that just felt right only to realize that you should have never done it in the first place?

nemo

For Your Enjoyment

2011-12-01T17:08:00.001-05:00

Sometimes when we kiss... Oh sorry. Didn't realize you were there. That's because I wasn't paying attention. Neither Mistress Ivey nor myself will be posting much this week as she is recovering from minor surgery this week. So I thought I would offer a few Captioned Photos to keep you entertained until she is back on her feet. Just so you know, she is fine. It was a routine procedure that she has many times before. So no need to be concerned.

nemo

Humiliation of Masturbation

2011-11-28T08:52:00.000-05:00

I don't know about you, but masturbating in front of Mistress can be very humiliating. Especially when she wants it to be! Edging is especially difficult, because I know she won't let me cum on my own!

nemo

Masturbation Fantasy

2011-11-25T14:32:00.000-05:00

Just because the title says masturbation, don't think for a minute that this fantasy is about me taking things into my own hands. Not for a second!

I am actually talking about all those web-teases you find all over the internet. Yes, Mistress Ivey and I have started our own web-tease website, but this isn't a plug for that. What this is, in fact, is a serious discussion of another way to use those web-teases. A way for the chaste male (who actually has a key holder) to utilize them.

I know that 98+% of web-teases are written for men who don't have key holders, or who aren't even into chastity at all. Let's face it, they are designed to attract men who would otherwise not have a partner to tease them, to have some fun (pain even) with their masturbation. I very much doubt that such sites would work if aimed at the female of the species. There are various reasons for that, which I am not prepared to go into in this post. But if you think about it, women (in general) are just not as interested in that sort of thing as we men.

Okay, now you have managed to find (or convince) a partner to be your key holder, Mistress, Master, or whatever they prefer to be called, to lock you up and tease you sexually while still denying you an orgasm, or at least, a full orgasm for some period of time. But what happens when the novelty of it all begins to wear off? I mean, what happens when she gets tired of having to tease you and deny you, even when she gets what she wants from you? What happens when her imagination has pretty much run the gambit of tease and torment ideas she has?

Well, the obvious answer is that things slow down. The teasing gradually becomes mundane, even boring (perhaps for you both) and life is not as exciting as it was when things first got started. What you need at that point (or before you reach that point) is an infusion of new ideas! But where can you turn? Let's face it, most of the stories you find all over the Internet are pretty repetitive. That is, once you have read a couple dozen of them, there is nothing new in any of the others.

Web-tease can be your answer. There are so many things that a woman can learn from a web-tease site if she will only take the time to read a few. Yes, they are mainly about masturbation. But does your KH make you do anything like what these teases ask of you? Probably not. But read a few for yourself, and see if you don't start fantasizing about your KH making you do some of the things these web-teases expect you to do. If you do, then I have some simple advice for you.

Talk with your KH. Tell her which ones you read and how they made you feel. Ask her to read a few for herself. If she reads them she just might come up with a few ideas of her own. New ways to tease you, and torment you. She might even get excited about teasing you more often. Wouldn't that be great!?

So, whether you use the site Mistress and I have set up, or any of the other web-tease sites out there, makes no difference. But I strongly recommend that you give it a try. Hey, it can't hurt!

Nemo

Disappointment

2011-11-23T11:15:00.001-05:00

Disappointment is something we (chastised males) have to get used to. But there are disappointments, and then there are disappointments. I hope yours are never like this!

Happy Thanksgiving!
nemo

Captioned Photo: Don't touch!

2011-11-20T10:21:00.000-05:00

There are times in a man's life when he can't seem to keep him mind on what he knows he should, even though he knows it might get him into trouble. It at those times when when so often forgets his place and throws caution to the wind...

nemo

Humor

2011-11-17T08:14:00.001-05:00

"Humor... It's a difficult concept." Or so says Kirsty Alley in a Star Trek movie. Well, I say humor is more like beauty... It's in the eye of the beholder. That is, it's funny, depending on your point of view. Otherwise, it can just be scary! I offer the following as examples of what I mean...

See what I mean?

nemo

Longer Waits

2011-11-16T12:00:00.000-05:00

Mistress recently concluded a poll that indicated many of us want to wait longer between orgasms. Well, here is a series of captioned photos that should make you think about what you are asking for. After all, we all know we should be careful about that...

That Special Moment

2011-11-12T13:06:00.000-05:00

I just read a post by 'The Naked Husband' that clicked with me in a way I can't (yet) explain (but I'll try).

Unless you are one of the lucky ones (whose wife brought up the subject), at some point, you asked her to take charge of your sexual relationship. Perhaps you asked her to take charge of everything, but whatever you asked her for, you most likely had to convince her it would be to her benefit. You may have had to push her into attempting it, giving it a try.

If you were successful, and she really tried it, studied to learn what she needed to do, and finally she agreed that it was a good move, you rejoiced. But there comes a time (hopefully) when she realizes the power she holds and begins to truly enjoy it. That's the moment when you breath a sigh of relief because everything you have worked for has finally come true.

When your Mistress (wife, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever) finally realizes that teasing you and keeping you denied (whether chaste or not), is a fun thing to do, you know you have achieved your ultimate goal. From that moment on, life is really worth living.

It may seem, at times, that all this was aimed at getting you more sexual attention. Well, duh! But greater than that, is the fact that your relationship has become more of what it should have been all along. It is more fulfilling for the both of you. More rewarding. In fact, even though it may seem as if it was all designed to increase your sexual pleasure, your partner now understands that she can have the pleasure, the rewards, the joy that you both deserve.

So, if you are not yet at that point, don't give up. Persevere and you will eventually achieve the happiness you are both searching for. Be patient. It will happen if you just keep doing the things that you know will please her.

nemo

Captioned Photo: Firey

2011-11-10T10:51:00.000-05:00

Ah, yes. You can still remember the fire in her eyes before you were married, the passion, the fierce determination she had in everything she did. You can remember the twinkle in that same eye when you asked her to be your Mistress and to control you and your orgasms. Perhaps you should have remembered her quick temper whenever something didn't go her way...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Waiting to cum

2011-11-08T14:43:00.000-05:00

So often your Mistress might be willing to tell you when you can expect to ejaculate. I have been able to decide if I want to know when it will happen, or be left in the dark until it does. After all, I like surprises. Well, I like some surprises. But there are times when I want something to look forward to. In the following photos I leave it to you to decide...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Lost Key

2011-11-05T14:38:00.001-04:00

Then are times when things just don't seem to go right. Like when Mistress loses the key. Desperate times call for desperate measures...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Spare Key

2011-11-05T14:35:00.000-04:00

Men are so impatient at times. Sometimes it seems we can't wait for Mistress to give us that orgasm she promised so long ago. In fact, some guys find ways around their cages. Sometimes Mistress' don't like us doing that.

nemo

Captioned Photo: Can't?

2011-11-04T12:19:00.000-04:00

I have noticed that once you give a woman control over your genitals (as in chastity), even if you asked her to take control, there are certain things that you just should NEVER say to her. The most important being, "You can't do that." Here's one example of why...

nemo

Captioned Photos - Second Thoughts

2011-11-03T11:16:00.000-04:00

As chastity slaves (and that is what we are when we are all locked up) we know what we want. Well, we think we know what we want, anyway. However, there are times when have second thoughts about what we have asked for...

nemo

Captioned Photo (Spikes)

2011-11-02T11:51:00.000-04:00

Don't you hate it when your PC (hard drive in particular) goes down and you have to make do with a temporary replacement. Especially when you have lost all your photos! I have an online backup but I have to wait until I purchase a new PC in order to download them. Anyway, it's not as bad as being teased until the spikes in your chastity device bring you to your knees (like in this photo)...

nemo

My Day Of Anal Play

2011-10-30T10:37:00.000-04:00

I had to drive the child to the bus stop in the morning, so I wasn't expecting what happened when I returned. It was still a little dark outside, the sun had not yet risen over the treetops. I found the back door, the one I normally used and had gone out of that morning, to be locked. Since I don't carry a key, I only hoped the front door was unlocked.

As I walked around the house I wondered how the door had gotten locked since I didn't think Mistress was up yet. But as I reached the front door, I realized I was wrong. Mistress stood at the door peering out the window. She smiled at me and said, “If you want in, you will have to strip naked.” That was, needless to say, a shock. I looked around to see if anyone might be watching. Seeing no one, and realizing the sun was getting higher, I quickly stripped completely, and asked her to open the door. Mistress just smiled back at me through the window and said, “Now make yourself hard.”

I don't know about the rest of you, but I get embarrassed when Mistress tells me to masturbate. I don't like doing that in front of anyone, even her. But as I seemed to have no choice, and I didn't want to spend any more time on the porch than necessary, I began playing with “Charlie” (the name I've given to my cock). Because of the situation, it didn't take me long to get Charlie erect. Mistress opened the door and let me enter.

Once inside, Mistress ordered me to stand behind one of the comfy chairs in the living room. Then she pulled a blindfold over my eyes. All was dark. She bound my ankles to the feet of the chair. Then she bound my wrists and fastened the ropes to the front feet of the chair, bending me at the waist. I felt pretty much stretched to the limit with my ass exposed to her every whim. I felt very vulnerable!

Mistress stood between my legs with her body pressed against me exposed bottom. She ran her fingernails up and down along my back for a few seconds. Then she pulled up a kitchen chair and sat down, her bag of toys beside her. She ran her fingernails up and down my inner thighs and across my buttocks. Chills ran up and down my entire body. I felt exposed, open to her every whim. I wondered what would happen next. Charlie, and my balls, were hanging between my legs on her side of the couch. That made me nervous.

Mistress tied a string around the end of my cock, just behind the head. I later learned that she had a small medicine cup suspended just below my cock. I could only guess what it was for. Then I felt her applying lubrication to my anus and the surrounding area. Then her finger pushed it's way into my ass and swirled around for a moment. Next came an icy-cold, glass dildo. She had frozen it just to add to my discomfort. It worked!

Mistress worked the ribbed dildo in and out of my ass for several minutes while fondling my cock and balls with her other hand. Mind you, during all of this, Mistress was telling me about all the things she “could” do to me while I was in this position. That not only made me more nervous, but it added to my humiliation at the same time.

After a few minutes of this, Mistress removed the dildo and replaced it with a cold, glass butt-plug. It was a bit larger than the dildo and filled me a bit more. It wasn't totally uncomfortable, but it was obviously bit bigger. For the next few minutes, Mistress ran her fingernails from my knees to my crotch repeatedly, teasing my balls at the end of each trip.

Next, Mistress began teasing my cock. She ran her fingers from the base of my cock, down and off the end. She only went in this one direction. She did it so very lightly. It was driving me crazy! There was not enough pressure (or stimulation) to allow me to reach orgasm, but made me want it more and more with every stroke. Before long, I found myself begging her to make me cum. But she only laughed and teased me with her words as well as with her fingers.

I could feel my pre-cum working it's way down the length of my cock. I instinctively knew it was dripping into the medicine cup Mistress had suspended below it. I assumed there must be quite a bit by that time. But I will never really know.

After what seemed like an eternity, Mistress stopped stroking my cock and informed me that she was now going to milk me. Then she, rather abruptly, plucked the butt-plug from my ass. It took me by surprise, but didn't really hurt. Then it was quickly replaced by a gloved finger. I could feel her massaging my prostate. I knew it wouldn't take her long to produce exactly what she wanted. I could feel that her finger was in the exact right place. And I was right. In a matter of minutes I felt the flow of semen pushing through my cock and dripping from it's end into the waiting cup.

But that was not the end. Oh no. Mistress allowed me to rest for a few minutes as she explained that she was going milk every single drop of cum from my balls before she would quit. She re-inserted her finger and milked another fairly good amount of cum from my balls. She repeated the process several times until she could get no more. I was exhausted. But I knew my torment was not over.

Once Mistress was sure she had drained the last few drops of cum from my balls, she removed the cup and the string that held it in place. She told me that she was saving that for later. I didn't know what she meant, but I had a pretty good idea. I'm also pretty sure you know as well. Mistress replaced the previous glass butt-plug into my ass. It was not as cold this time, thank heavens. But it was still cold enough to get my attention.

Mistress took the time to attach a small rope, with some kind of weight attached, to my balls. It was uncomfortable, but not overwhelming. I could hear her doing something behind me, but I couldn't tell exactly what it was. Then I felt her favorite strap-on pressing into my ass and I knew what she was doing.

At first, Mistress pushed the dildo slowly into my rear. Once it was all the way in, she began to push it it in and out in a slow, rhythmic pace. She was stretching my anus to it limits, or so I thought. Let's just say it felt like it. Her pace began to pick up. Before long, she was fucking my ass rather firmly and fast. It was all I could do to keep from crying out. But I managed to take all she could dish out. When she thought I had had enough, she pulled the strap-on dildo out of me and re-inserted the glass plug.

Finally, Mistress released the rope that held the weights which dangled from my balls. Even though it had not been painful, it was a relief to be rid of them. I could feel her fingers lightly fondling my balls and cock again. Her voice was reassuring, but her words were humiliating. She talked about the many things she could make me do, as her slave, that involved many other people. I won't go into details about those fantasies, just imagine your most exciting, yet humiliating, fantasies and that will do it.

After about another 15-20 minutes of teasing my cock, she released me. The first thing she did was make me drink the cup of cum she had collected during my ordeal. By that time I was exhausted and she allowed me to take a nap. It was almost noon and all this started a little after 7:am. All I can say is, I have a truly wonderful Mistress. I suspected that I would soon be returning the favor... Giving her all the orgasms she can handle.

nemo

Captioned Photos: Couples Therapy

2011-10-26T11:24:00.000-04:00

Sometimes it seems the logical way for a couple to improve their relationship is through couples therapy. But what would couples therapy for a Female Lead Relationship (especially one into BDSM) look like? Let's face it, this may be the fast route to getting your wife up and running as a Mistress. You wanted cruel? Well here's one way to get it...

nemo

Captioned Photos: Strap-ons

2011-10-25T10:37:00.000-04:00

Speaking of strap-ons, (if you have been following my comments you know we were), I told you it was important to communicate your desires clearly! If you don't communicate well, this is what could happen...

nemo

Sharing Your Desires

2011-10-24T12:00:00.000-04:00

I consider myself to be (pretty much) an average guy (whatever that is). I don't normally compare myself, or my participation in the chastity, Femdom, lifestyles, to anyone else's. Besides, who knows who (on the Internet) is telling the truth about their relationship and who is exaggerating about it or making it all up (expressing their fantasies?). Besides, we all practice in our own ways. That is to say, I might get ideas, even fantasies, from reading other stories and blogs on-line, but I have no way of knowing when someone is telling me the real truth about what they do and don't do.

Fantasy is one thing, reality quite another. I know that I (and Mistress Ivey) have said that before, but I want to make a point. You may have fantasies about long term denial coupled with (almost excessive) amounts of daily teasing. But here is the problem... Does your partner share that fantasy? Regardless of what your fantasy is, or how “real” you think you want it to be, if your partner does not share your fantasy, yet she tries to give you what you want, who is really in charge?

By definition, a Female Led Relationship is totally controlled by the Female! Your fantasy, whatever it is, consists of a woman telling you what to do, when to do it, and when you can or cannot ejaculate. Exactly how much of that you want to be real, if your partner (Mistress, girlfriend, or whatever) does not share your fantasy one of two things is going to happen. Either she is going to “play the game” the way you tell her you want it, or she will do it her way and possibly ruin the fantasy for you.

Now I know that every successful relationship consists of give and take, of compromise, and of excellent communication. Anything less is bound to be less than successful. Maybe not a complete failure, but at least one partner (maybe both) will not be as happy as they want to be.

Let me give you an example. Suppose, in your fantasies, you dream of being denied an orgasm for a year or more. Not exactly an unusual fantasy. But there is more to it than that, isn't there? You want to be teased for long periods at frequent intervals as well. What if your partner is not really interested in doing all that teasing? What if she she doesn't want to go more than a month without feeling you inside her. Not just inside, but ejaculating inside? What does that do to your fantasy?

Without a truly good communication and rapport, between the two of you, one or both of you will be less than satisfied. I have stressed this before, but I still get “what can I do” questions every day. What you can do is open up! Tell your partner what you want and what the actual fantasy is. Then work out something that will make you both happy. If long term denial is good for her, and she is willing to do a certain amount of teasing each week, then you can work out an acceptable compromise.

Far be it from me to tell a Female what to do. So all I can do is suggest that women read Mistress Ivey's blog. I am sure that, with a little research, she can find whatever subject she wants covered by Mistress Ivey. After all, she has been writing her blog for over a year.

For you gentlemen (or feminized men) out there, no matter how humiliating it is, you MUST tell your partner your deepest, darkest fantasies. Just be sure she knows which you would actually want to try and which you want to remain fantasy. If you are not sure, be sure to inform her. The more about you and your fantasies that she knows, the better she can go about fulfilling both your fantasies (hers and yours). Yes, it all boils down to communication. Open, honest communication.

nemo

More Surprises!

2011-10-22T11:37:00.000-04:00

Not all the surprises we get are erotic. Some may even be down right terrifying! For example...

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Captioned Photo: Surprise!

2011-10-21T11:12:00.001-04:00

Sometimes we are surprised by those who have placed us in chastity. Hopefully, these surprises are something wonderful, sometimes not. But some surprises seem to over shadow all others...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Time limits (5)

2011-10-20T08:06:00.000-04:00

Not all limits are time limits. Sometimes a Mistress will use other types of limits. But whatever the limit is, I hate when they get so stringent that I just can't make it no matter how hard I try. Of course, I realize that it's only Mistress' way of teasing me. She probably doesn't want me to succeed, but now she can say she gave me a chance...

nemo

Dominizing Your Partner (3)

2011-10-15T09:32:00.000-04:00

Well, this is the third installment on how to get your partner to be more dominant. I know there is no such word as “Dominize” or “Dominizing” but I think I am going to register it. I could use a nickel every time someone uses it! After all, what else would you call it?

Okay, enough of that. Let's get back to work, here. As I recall, I told you I was going to give you something to do that would be more difficult that anything you have done so far. Well here it is. You should pretend that you are in chastity, saving all your energy for your partner. That means NO masturbating! I know that can be difficult, but if you want to show her just what being in charge could mean to her, you need to go all the way.

Now the good part. The next time she wants sex, give her everything she wants. Act like you are done when she is worn out. If she asks if there is anything she can do for you, try this: Ask her to put some lubrication on your cock and then stroke it VERY lightly, and VERY slowly! If you get close to coming, you must STOP her. Edging is fun and you have to show her that it can be fun for her, too. Don't tell her what you are doing, just stop her before it's too late and ask her to let you rest for a minute before she continues.

Hold out as long as you can. Let her edge you four or five times before you let yourself ejaculate. You shouldn't ruin it, so be sure you stop in time when being edged. In the final approach to orgasm, ask her to speed up and maybe hold you a little more snugly. You should have a really great orgasm. Now, wasn't that worth it? I think she will realize what happened, but even if she doesn't, she will be curious. This is your big chance to talk to her about tease and denial.

Sit down and really talk about it. Let her know how much more enjoyable sex (orgasms) are when you have been denied one for awhile. Don't go any further than that. Let her lead you to it. She will, most likely, have questions about it. Answer them, but don't suggest she take charge. Chances are, she will take the reins without you pushing her into it. From time to time, you can suggest ways for her to tease you, sexually. If all goes well, it's time to show her some of the stories you have read online. Or maybe some of the websites that are aimed at the “normal” woman, such as Mistress Ivey's website.

Remember, don't push her. Let her lead you into the very thing you want. If she asks you anything, answer honestly. Let her know that you have fantasies, but don't push them on her. She may, eventually, ask you about those fantasies. That will be your opening! Don't be afraid to tell her some of them. Just don't tell her the really secret ones until she is ready for them. Trust me, you will know when that is.

Good luck, and don't forget to talk!

nemo

Dominizing Your Partner (2)

2011-10-14T09:41:00.000-04:00

Yes, this is a continuation of my last post. This is such an important subject that it will take me at least one more post after this one. So many men want to know how to get their partner to become more dominant. The problem is, you can't approach them in a way that will bring to mind the stereotypical images that most of the Internet brings to mind. To be honest about it, those leather-clad, whip-wielding, high-heel wearing, order screaming women are extremely rare. They happen to appeal to many men's sexual fantasies, but most men don't really want to live that way all the time. It's a great fantasy, but really? I don't think so. So is there any question why most women are turned off by the very thought it?

Even if your dream is to turn your woman into a screaming, orgasm denying, witch who will never even tease you much less let you out of your chastity device, you can't do it over night. Hell, she will probably divorce you if you tell her that's what you want. No, women don't really want that, and, if you think about it, neither do you. Not really. Now do you?

Okay, so what you want is something less than the fantasy we all have. What you really want is more, more exciting, sexual experiences than you have now. Right? You want your wife (or partner) to be more dominant. That's pretty normal. So why would you want to scare the hell out of her by asking her to be your Mistress? After all, if you want to know what comes to her mind when you say, “Mistress,” just take a look what you get when you type it into Google! So don't tell her that! Tell her you want to be a better husband (or whatever you are). That will grab her attention.

You REALLY need to talk with her. Don't tell her more than she needs to know. Tell her what you can do for her. How you want to improve her life by doing more for her. Tell her the benefits of her being in charge. Start slowly! Ask her to take charge of the house (which she probably already is) so that she can tell you what she needs done. Then do what she says. Do anything that you think she needs done. Do the laundry, take out the trash, wash the dishes. Oh, and not only that, but in the bedroom too. Let her be in charge without pressuring her. You don't even have to tell her. Just do it. Let her take the lead. Concentrate on her pleasure. Let her do to you whatever she wants, make it clear that you would like to please her.

The bedroom is your best place to put her in charge without her even knowing. You know what she likes. So do it. Don't ask or even tell her what you want her to do. Simply give her all your attention. Do all the things she likes until she can't take any more. Then, when she starts to do what she thinks you need, (and this is the hard part) tell her you don't need anything. Just knowing that she is satisfied is all the pleasure you need. She may insist and that's okay. After all, it's up to her! Right? But make sure you always put her pleasure before your own. The more you do that, the more comfortable she will become getting what she wants. You've made progress!

Next time we will try something new. Something even more difficult (for you).

nemo

“Dominizing” Your Partner

2011-10-13T11:36:00.000-04:00

I have been asked many times for help convincing a wife (or partner) to become dominant. Well, that's a tall order. It's not always possible, but there are some things you can do if your partner is not really open to the idea. The first thing you want to do (for anything that involves you both), is talk! Communication is the single most important part of any successful relationship. Especially when two people live together. The main problem I see is that many people are too shy about what they want to effectively discuss it with their loved one. Rejection is a very powerful weapon that all too often goes off by mistake. “I didn't even know it was loaded” is a acceptable excuse (in this case). Your best protection is a hard shell. But there are ways to avoid it. Here is a good post about what NOT to do.

For example, do you behave as if your partner is in charge? If not, why not? After all, isn't that what you want? Then why not ease her into it? If your behavior changes, becomes more submissive, it could make a difference. I am not talking about greeting your spouse at the door on your knees or kissing her feet when she gets home from the grocery store (though that might work, too). What I am talking about is simply doing things she asks without complaining. Anticipating her needs, her desires, and trying to fulfill them BRFORE she asks! Think about it.

Become the husband (or whatever) that you want to be. The one you want her to make you be. Even in bed. Try to put your own desires aside. Tend to her wants and desires, her pleasure, without regard for your own. Be the unselfish lover you want her to dominate. Who knows, it might just open her eyes to what you are asking of her.

If she notices the difference, and she should, talk to her. Tell her that you are just trying to be a better husband. Tell her that you are willing to do whatever she asks of you. If you're lucking, she may just test you on it. Whatever you do, don't pressure her! And if she does test you, don't fail her! The best weapon you have in your arsenal is you own obedience. Give her an example of how being in charge can make her life better.

Even if don't have a talk about her taking charge, perhaps you can ease her into it without her even knowing. However, once she gets used to it, then you shouldn't feel so vulnerable. That's when you want to talk with her about it. Start by asking her if she has noticed any difference in you. She may even be the one to bring it up. That's your cue to ask her to be more dominant. Often times, it's the stereotypical “Mistress” that scares her. That's what she thinks is too kinky. So don't push her that way, just let her naturally gravitate toward it. Chances are, if you can keep it from sounding kinky, she will be much more open to it. Remember, it's all about pleasing her!

I think that's enough for now. If you spend a few weeks doing as I have suggested here, you may be surprised at the result. Good luck!

nemo

Captioned Photo: Time limits (4)

2011-10-12T12:22:00.000-04:00

You know, many times we have limits placed on our performance. But it's not always a time limit. Sometimes it's more of a performance limit. The problem comes in when the limits imposed by Mistress are not what's keeping us from complying...

The Marathon Is Over!

2011-10-11T15:47:00.000-04:00


It was about 11:am when she called to the bedroom again. She quickly repeated the procedure. That is, she made it seem like a chore she had to perform in order for her experiment to work. It worked alright. That is, again she made the white liquid dribble from the end of my poor expectant cock. It was a let-down, needless to say. But that's what she wanted.

As the day progressed, I was called into the bedroom for a repeat performance every hour and half to two hours. Each time she pumped me without so much as a word of encouragement, much less the usual fantasy I had become accustom to hearing. The fact is, she was able to get semen from me every time that day. There was a total of seven times before we went to bed for the night. Not only was I able to perform each and every time, the amount of semen she extracted was about the same the last time as the first.

In the end, we determined that I can handle as many ruined orgasms as she could give me, as long as I get some rest between them. I don't know what would happen if she only allowed me to rest for an hour between, or even half and hour. Perhaps, one day, we will find out. I am hoping that she will try to see how many full orgasms I can have in one day. That will be fun! But something tells me she is not interested in that information.

It was fun. And I would not mind repeating it. But I would like to have a real orgasm at the end of the day. After all, didn't I earn it? Only she can decide that...

nemo

Captioned Photo: Time limits (3)

2011-10-10T10:47:00.000-04:00

Sometimes, the time we have to accomplish a goal goes down... and down... and down... One would think that the task was impossible, but because of our needs, desires, and level of frustration, the impossible becomes possible... Hopefully...

Captioned Photo: Time limits (2)

2011-10-08T17:48:00.000-04:00

Sometimes the limits get shorter...

Captioned Photo: Time limits (1)

2011-10-08T08:47:00.000-04:00

Sometimes in life, we are all placed "under the gun" so to speak. Meaning that we have time limits in which to produce, perform, or whatever. We don't always succeed. Sometimes we're not meant to. Sometimes, there's just the too much pressure. And sometimes we just don't have the incentive. So how's this for incentive?

Untie Me!

2011-10-05T16:22:00.000-04:00

Sometimes we get an idea in our heads. Later, we may realize that it wasn't such a good idea after all, especially when we consider the consequences.

The Marathon Still Continues...

2011-10-03T11:47:00.000-04:00

Yes, I am being teased several times a day. Now she judges when to stop each her short little teases by how much pain I am in from the spikes in my cage. She seems to love causing me this kind of pain knowing full well it will take several minutes for "Charlie" to get soft enough to give me any relief.

That's life!

The Marathon Continues

2011-10-01T15:19:00.000-04:00

Remember the ruined orgasm marathon Mistress Ivey started a few days ago? Well, she is still "warming me up" for it! The actual "Marathon" hasn't started, yet. Instead, she plans to make sure that I am as turned on and eager for it to take place as she is.

Mistress says that when I am "ready" (whatever that means) she will see how many times in one day that she can bring me to orgasm, only to ruin it when it happens. On one hand, I am looking forward to that, but on the other...?

So, yesterday was much like the day before... More teasing. Then when I think she is done, she starts up again. I made ten (10), yes I said "TEN" trips to the bedroom where I was ordered to drop my drawers so that she could play with her property. I'm sorry I didn't take notes so I could give you a blow by blow (don't I wish) account of everything that she did to me. But I can give you a good idea of what it was like.

One time she fondled my butt while describing what it felt like to her when she sits in my lap and fucks me, especially when she knows I can't feel it enough to work up even a small orgasm. I'm beginning to hate that Boy Butter she bought. Oh, yeah, she now uses an adjustable cock ring we bought a few years ago to accomplish the same thing. I am beginning to think I may NEVER cum again.

Anyway, back to the warm up. Another time she called me into the bedroom, had me drop my drawers, so that she could stand behind me (pressing her naked body against me) and play with my balls. All the while she is whispering in my ear about tying me to the railing on the back porch and teasing me there for an hour. The pain from those tiny spikes in my cage were killing me by the time she released me and sent me back to the living room. She knows my fantasies and humiliations too well.

By the end of the day, I was ready to tear my cage off, throw her on the bed and fuck her brains out. Besides knowing better than that, she had other plans. She lay next to me on the bed fondling my nipples and balls, and everything in between. And, of course, between my legs. Then she had me lick her to orgasm. Okay, THAT WAS fun, but I was hoping for more for me. I guess I really have never learned that only she can give me what I need and that asking for an orgasm is out of the question. I am learning that lesson now.

I have already been called to the bedroom four times today. I am told she won't be ruining any orgasms until, at least, Monday. So I guess I will have to get used to the spikes, as well as learn what it's like to want.

nemo

Marathon Tease

2011-09-29T07:41:00.000-04:00

Yesterday, Mistress decided to make my tiny teases based on milking me through ruined orgasms. She started out by asking me if I would like to cum. Of course my answer (stupid though it may have been) was a resounding “Yes”. That was all she needed to begin her planned teases.

She got Charlie hard by licking and sucking on him during the first session. When she was satisfied that I was fully aroused, she stood up and announced that I would not be getting that orgasm anytime soon. That's when I realized my mistake.

The next time I was called to the bedroom, Mistress began telling me about her plans to give me a day of ruined orgasms. As she told me this she was raking her fingernails back and forth across my nipples. I have very sensitive nipples and having them touched always turns me on. Naturally, Charlie got hard rather quickly and Mistress left me standing there wondering exactly what she had in mind.

During my third trip to the bedroom, Mistress said that she was planning to see just how many ruined orgasms she could give me in 8-hour period. Needless to say, it didn't take long for Charlie to get hard while she teased my balls with her fingernails. I wanted more information about this ruined orgasm marathon Mistress was planning.

It was several (very long) hours before I was called to the bedroom again. I spent most of that time thinking about about all the things Mistress could do to me in order to get me to the edge of cumming so that she could ruin my orgasm. There are so many possibilities, some sounded like fun while others sounded scary.

As Mistress fondled my bottom and balls at the same time, she explained how she intended to start this marathon (whenever that might be). She would be to tie me down, oil Charlie up and stroke him until I was ready to shoot. Then she would simply ruin it by stopping all contact with my body.

During the next bedroom visit, Mistress told me that she might make me masturbate while she watched me, urging me on, until time to ruin that one also. She told me this while using both hands to gently stroke Charlie making him achieve full erection in only a few seconds.

Finally, during my last visit to the bedroom that evening, Mistress sucked Charlie to full erection before announcing that during the planned marathon, she would be saving all the cum for me to drink at the end of the day. Now I know many of you love to drink your own cum, but I am one of those who would rather not... ever... drink my own cum.

Needless to say, I did not sleep well last night...

nemo

Locked Again... Finally!

2011-09-27T07:40:00.000-04:00

Yes, Mistress Ivey has finally locked me back up in chastity. I don't mind saying that I missed my steel cage. And just to add to my humiliation she posted a photo of my privates all locked up.

How long has it been? Let me see, 93 days! Much too long for my taste. But her “Honor System” experiment is over at last! Oh, yeah, she teased me some during all that time, but not the way I wanted it. She would take me into the bedroom and get me nice and hard (several times a day), then just leave me hanging. There were no long, slow teases that I love. She said that would just make me want to masturbate too much to resist.

The good news? I'm not sure there is any. Before replacing my cage, Mistress, rather roughly masturbated me. She stroked my cock with some rather hot “warming” oil until I was on the brink of orgasm, then she ruined it. She repeated the procedure three more times just to make sure my balls were completely empty. Trust me, they were. My cock was also very sore. The oil didn't keep her hand from chaffing me a bit. On second thought, had she done it that rough without the oil I might still be curled up on the bed in pain.

Anyway, I am happy to say that I am back in the cage now, and I hope to be there for a long time. Of course, I also hope she will remove it from time to time for some real teasing. And by-the-way, She told me that if I am not good for her, she will put the spikes back in as well. Just between you me and wall, I think she will find an excuse to put them in anyway. You see, I modified the “Points of Intrigue” that came with my CB3k to fit the steel cage. That way, she can still use them no matter which device she puts me in.

I am sure that I will be giving her a large number of orgasms in the days, weeks, or months to cum (pun intended). So I have a lot to look forward to. I will keep you posted as to the progress since that seems to be what many of want to read about. Besides, I love the opportunity to reminisce while writing.

nemo :)

Fantasies Are Fun!

2011-09-25T12:04:00.000-04:00

Remember when you had all those fantasies about being controlled by your lover? Remember how you just knew things would be great! How much fun you would have tending to her needs and putting your own needs second to hers? Remember when you would occasionally masturbate just thinking about having your cock locked up and only getting released when SHE wanted it? Those were they days...

Now that reality has set in, is it as much fun as you hoped it would be? Are your needs being met by what she wants? Are you as happy as you thought you would be? Let's hope so. But for many, reality rarely measures up to the fantasies we had before. Before the reality hit, that is. I have seen both sides of the fence, having once been a Master to my wife/slave. Things were different then. I was in control. I was the one who decided when, where and how we would have sex. Of even IF we had sex. I was in control of HER orgasms. So, would I trade places again?

The answer to that is more complicated than it sounds. I wanted to give control to Mistress. I wanted to be relieved of all the stress of making every decision that came along. But that's not the question, is it? The question is, is my current situation what I thought it would be? The answer is more complex than a simple “yes” or “no”. Yes, I am happy not to be making those decisions any longer. After all, that was the cause of most of my stress.

However, Mistress has desires that I never knew existed. She wants things from me that were never a part of my fantasies. She doesn't seem to want sex (or to tend to my sexual needs) as often as I had imagined she would. But when I look back and compare my fantasies with reality, it's not fair to her (or myself).

I had to face reality. The reality that I can't have everything my way. If I did, how then would she be in control? So how do I reconcile reality with the fantasies I once had about life in a female led relationship? I focus on the one thing that I wanted more than anything else... Her in charge. No, I don't get everything I want. Who really does? I mean, even the one charge has to be cognizant of his/her partner's needs to be happy. After all, happiness is what this is all about, isn't it? So compromise is how we accomplish things in this world.

By focusing on the things that I DO get, I can pacify my desire for what I don't. Also, being the best husband and lover I can be, gets me a great deal more than not. Therefore, I try to be the best, most attentive, most caring, most obedient, husband I can be. I still may not get everything I would like, but I avoid many things I don't want, as well. It seems to be a good compromise. I don't get teased as much as I would like, but I don't paddled as much as I could be. (Those of you who love the pain may want to take a different tack.)

Talking with others has opened my eyes to a few things. First of all, ask yourself this question, “Does my Mistress really know and understand my fantasies?” If you can't honestly answer, “Yes,” to that question, then you need to be communicating more. Take the time, letters, emails, or better yet, just talking with her can bring you a great deal of joy and even more of what you want from her.

I guess what I am trying to convey here is, don't dwell on those things you don't have, rather, take joy in the ones you do. Life will never be exactly what we would dream, but you can always make it better, if you try.

nemo

Erotic?

2011-09-23T07:40:00.000-04:00

Sometimes all we need is a little eroticism to get our juices (and fantasies) really flowing. I offer these to help you through your day. I hope you like them.

Uh Oh!

2011-09-20T08:44:00.000-04:00

Sometimes we love dreaming about what life would be like if our significant other would only take charge and make us behave. The problem is, their dreams just might be different from ours...

So... Be careful what you wish for!

More Scary Stuff

2011-09-18T16:22:00.000-04:00

Here are three more captioned photos that fall into the "Scary Stuff" category.

Scary Stuff

2011-09-17T10:03:00.001-04:00

I have created over 200 captioned photos over the last year. Some have shown up in some pretty strange places. I don't always get credit for them, but that doesn't really matter to me. The subject matter often changes from the "makes you think" category to the "OMG" category and everything in between. Here are three more. I will let you decide what category these belong in...

Can You Still Get It Up?

2011-09-15T09:09:00.000-04:00

I have seen a great deal of controversy on the net about the effects of long term chastity for men. The question is, does your cock lose it's ability to get hard after a long period of lockup? I have heard stories of men who spent a long time locked up in chastity who claim that they could no longer get hard once the cage was removed.

The problem is, I have never spoken with anyone who actually experienced the problem for more than a few days. I can understand how the mental aspect of the pain received when the penis attempts to get erect with a restrictive cage (or even spikes) could cause a temporary lack of erection. But my question is, is that just a mental block caused by the pain or is it a physical thing? Frankly, I don't see any reason why anyone would permanently lose the ability to achieve an erection just because it was difficult (or impossible) for a given length of time.

So help me out here. Post a comment (your email address is NOT recorded) and tell me if you have experienced this and how long you were locked up when it happened. Also, was it permanent or temporary? If it was only temporary, how long did it last?

Thinks in advance,

nemo

Do You Know Your KH?

2011-09-14T08:45:00.000-04:00

Just because you have been married for X years does not mean that you know what kind of Mistress or Key Holder your wife will make. Without a great deal communication between the two of you, you really can't be sure just what she will do. Now I know that that is part of the attraction (not knowing) but you MUST know that your own limits will not be crossed.

This is where many people will tell you that that is what contracts are for. But let's face it, most married couples will just blow off the whole contract idea for one reason or another. Maybe they think they know each other well enough, or they have an understanding, or they are just plain too lazy to take the time to put one together. But whatever the reason, far too many will not have a contract.

Okay, so let's assume you are trusting enough to by-pass the contract thing. What are you going to do when your KH starts to neglect you and your needs. Or, worse, she cuckolds you when you “thought” that was well beyond your limits. It does happen. You should make sure that there is a way for you to discuss how things are going and what things you want to try and DON'T want to try.

Perhaps you never thought of this, but what happens if your KH decides she is tired of that teasing stuff? What happens if she no longer teases you at all. Are you prepared for that? Or is that something you want to talk about BEFORE it happens? You decide. I know the chastity credo is “Be careful what you ask for,” but perhaps it should be “Know your Key Holder.”

Just like men, women's fantasies, desires, likes and dislikes can (and often do) change. Make sure you have a way to adjust to those changes. For example, I know of one couple who began to play with chastity. The wife was reluctant at first because she was not comfortable being in charge. After only a few months, she began to enjoy being quite sadistic. She moved from the occasional hesitant spanking to some pretty severe paddling and whipping. They solved this problem by joining a local BDSM group where she was able to release her sadistic side on some men who knew how to take it (as well as liked it). She's back to applying more gentle corrections when he needs it.

I would suggest that you BOTH make a list. In it you should list all those fantasies you have always had. Mark the ones that you would never really want to come true. Include a list of activities that you enjoy as well as a list of things that you NEVER want to do. Both of you need to make these lists and then you should actually sit down and talk about them. Compare your lists, modify them if you think of something else. Don't be afraid to talk about what you want or expect from a key Holder. It's your cock, for now, so protect it.

So, back to my original question, how well do you really know your KH?

nemo

More On Spikes

2011-09-13T15:05:00.000-04:00

Those lovely, wonderful, nasty, painful, darned spikes! What would we ever do without them? Well, experience a great deal less pain, that's what! But then, life would not be nearly so interesting, now would it?

Those Darned Spikes! pt 3

2011-09-12T09:21:00.000-04:00

Sometimes I love it when those spikes dig in. Well, okay, I admit it's not the spikes I love, it's what Mistress is doing to turn me on that I love. And when I know it's only to make them dig in, that's when I like it most. I guess it's the knowledge that she is doing it on purpose that makes it all wonderful. But I hate waking up in pain knowing she is not enjoying my pain. It takes all the fun out of it.

Those Darned Spikes! pt 2

2011-09-11T05:24:00.000-04:00

Why is it that so many women seem to enjoy seeing us suffer? I mean, being teased while those little spikes do their worst cause us so much pain! Thank Heaven for cruel Mistress'!

Those Darned Spikes!

2011-09-10T09:34:00.001-04:00

I am going to present a series of captioned photos that I have created over the years. Since I have so many, I will post them a few at a time. If you have never had the pleasure of feeling what those darned things can do to you, you don't know what you are missing. Perhaps, in the future you will find out. Speak to your KH if you need to know. I'm sure she will accommodate you...

Crying

2011-09-08T18:15:00.000-04:00

There are a lot of reasons to cry, but I would rather Mistress didn't know any of them. But, of course, she always knows just how to make me do it... And she always has a backup plan in case I don't cry at her first attempt.

What She Wants...

2011-09-07T15:48:00.000-04:00

That's what it's all about, isn't it? I mean when you come right down to it, that is what we tell her when we are trying to talk her into becoming our Mistress. We say things like, "You can do anything you want to me," and, "I will do ANYTHING you tell me to, I promise." Then they finally agree. Now we are stuck with with the reality of it all...

Extra Leverage

2011-09-07T07:40:00.000-04:00

Sometimes we can't always convince our wives to do what we need. So we look elsewhere for a key holder. However, in doing so, our key holder has an extra bit of leverage...

Getting What You Want?

2011-09-06T19:36:00.000-04:00

Most of the time, our objective is to give her what she wants. The problem is, the true objective is to get what we want as well. So, are you getting what you want or not?

Having Fun Yet?

2011-09-05T18:14:00.000-04:00

Often times what is fun for one is not always fun for the other. Sometimes, even though in chastity, we can make a pest of ourselves where sex is concerned. I know the objective with turning over control is make us want only to please her, but there are those times when even that becomes more than she is willing to put up with...

Punishments...

2011-09-05T09:43:00.000-04:00

Don't you just hate it when they find a way to make the punishment fit the crime? At least in their mind? I know, we secretly want all the denial, but if you come right out and tell her that, she will NEVER lock you up.

Stop Crying...

2011-09-04T18:49:00.000-04:00

Sometimes you get what you want. Other times, you get exactly what you deserve. The question is, which is which?

Consequences...

2011-09-01T17:08:00.000-04:00

Sometimes they're worth it, sometimes they're not. However, most of the time we act without thinking about the consequences. Therefore, we are left to make our assessment after the fact...

Know Your Key Holder

2011-08-30T04:10:00.001-04:00

Just because you have been married for X years does not mean that you know what kind of Mistress or Key Holder your wife will make. Without a great deal of communication between the two of you, you really can't be sure just what she will do. Now I know that that is part of the attraction (not knowing) but you MUST know that your own limits will not be crossed.

This is where many people will tell you that that is what contracts are for. But let's face it, most married couples will just blow off the whole contract idea for one reason or another. Maybe they think they know each other well enough, or the have an understanding, or they are just plain too lazy to take the time to put one together. But whatever the reason, far too many will not have a contract.

Okay, so let's assume you are trusting enough to by-pass the contract thing. What are you going to do when your KH starts to neglect you and your needs. Or, worse, she cuckolds you when you “thought” that was well beyond your limits. It does happen. You should make sure that there is a way for you to discuss how things are going and what things you want to try and DON'T want to try.

Perhaps you never thought of this, but what happens if your KH decides she is tired of that teasing stuff? What happens if she no longer teases you at all. Are you prepared for that? Or is that something you want to talk about BEFORE it happens? You decide. I know the chastity credo is “Be careful what you ask for,” but perhaps it should be “Know your Key Holder.”

Just like men, women's fantasies, desires, likes and dislikes can (and often do) change. Make sure you have a way to adjust to those changes. For example, I know of one couple who began to play with chastity. The wife was reluctant at first because she was not comfortable being in charge. After only a few months, she began to enjoy being quite sadistic. She moved from the occasional hesitant spanking to some pretty severe paddling and whipping. They solved this problem by joining a local BDSM group where she was able to release her sadistic side on some men who knew how to take it (as well as liked it). She's back to applying more gentle corrections when he needs it.

So, back to my original question, how well do you really know your KH?

nemo

New Video Added

2011-08-29T12:51:00.000-04:00

I have added new video to top of the list. It's a 15 minute excellent example of how to tease a cock using the 'barely touching' method. You will notice how the skin almost never moves while this woman strokes it. Although she does allow him two orgasms, you will notice how she does NOT touch his cock while he is cumming. She doesn't do a great deal of talking during this video (which would be a definite improvement) she does manage to bring him to the brink well. I found it to be quite erotic.

nemo

Don't You Hate It?

2011-08-28T08:04:00.000-04:00

Don't you just hate when they take you at your word? I mean, let's face it, we offer them the opportunity to do ANYTHING they want and what happens? They do anything they want!

How Well Do You Really Know Her?

2011-08-23T18:22:00.000-04:00

Others Are Your Fault...

2011-08-21T16:31:00.000-04:00

Some Are Not Your Fault...

2011-08-21T10:31:00.000-04:00

Big Mistakes...

2011-08-18T16:23:00.000-04:00

And More Mistakes...

2011-08-17T17:03:00.000-04:00

Sometimes We Make Mistakes...

2011-08-15T15:12:00.000-04:00

And More Decisions...

2011-08-14T17:19:00.000-04:00

Decisions, Decisions...

2011-08-12T11:01:00.001-04:00

Why Should I?

2011-08-09T14:00:00.000-04:00

Marital Bliss?

2011-08-09T09:27:00.000-04:00

Just Married

2011-08-09T09:17:00.000-04:00

Setting The Date

2011-08-08T13:39:00.000-04:00

Not Happy!

2011-08-08T11:30:00.000-04:00

What Do You Want?

2011-08-05T13:48:00.000-04:00

What are you actually looking for in a Female Led Relationship? Have you ever truly thought about it? Have you bothered to sit down and make a list of the things you want a Mistress to do to you, or what kind of Mistress you want? Have you actually made a list of things (or types of things) you would want her to do? Or have you simply fantasized about how it would be if you had your perfect Mistress? If you have only fantasized, have your fantasies evolved? Have they changed in any way? If you have a Mistress, have you expressed these changes in your fantasies to her?

I know that's a lot of questions to ask. But if you are like most of the other men I talk with (including myself) you probably realize that you have let things go too long without properly defining some of these things. At the very least, you may need to update your fantasies. That is, your fantasies have changed or evolved and you have not communicated these changes to your Mistress. If you are one of those who had to talk your partner into entering a FLR, you may not have kept her properly informed of the things she is doing right and those things you would like to change.

For example, I have noticed that many of my fantasies now include things that, when I first started out, I would never have even considered doing, much less found them erotic. But things change. Oh I still want her to engage in a great deal of tease and denial, cock teasing, or whatever you want to call it, but there are other things I would actually like to try that she still thinks are a definite “no-no” on my list.

If you look over the list of questions I asked at the beginning of this post, perhaps you will find some things that you need to do. If the regular cock teasing has lost some of its thrill, perhaps it's because you need to let your Mistress know about the changes in your fantasies so that she can use the information to heighten your enjoyment during your next session of tease and denial. At the risk of sounding like a broken record, communication is the key to happiness. Make your lists, sit down with your Mistress and communicate to her what is on those lists. After all, how else will she ever know what you like/want if you don't tell her?

Just be careful what you ask for... You may just get it!

nemo

Getting What You Want

2011-07-29T10:26:00.001-04:00

Many times, what we want and what we think we want, are two different things. Sometimes we get exactly what we want. I'll leave it to the reader to decide. After all, Mistress may decide what we get, but only you know if that was what you wanted...

nemo

New POT Video Added

2011-07-28T14:35:00.000-04:00

I just added a super Post Orgasm Torture video to my videos page. It's the first one on the list. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did when I first saw it.

memo

Good News & Bad News

2011-07-18T12:26:00.000-04:00

All too often in the world of male chastity (possibly female as well) when we get what we want, it's not what we were expecting. All too often, things don't actually go as planned. That is to say, what we want and what we get are not always the same. Oh, I admit, many times it's better. But for those times when it's not, perhaps the fault is our own.

Years ago, when I first entered into the world of BDSM, I quickly discovered that the single most important thing a couple needs, is trust. All the communication in the world can't help if there is no trust. In our rush to get our partners to engage in our fantasies of tease, denial, chastity and obedience, we sometimes forget to build that all important trust. After all, if your domme (Femdom, key holder, or Mistress) is someone with whom you have spent many years in a relationship, it's easy to think that you know them.

I don't know how many times I have seen guys regret their decision to enlist their wives, lovers, or whomever, in their female led relationship simply because this person turned out to be something unexpected. I've heard a thousand times how well someone "thinks" they know their partner, only to learn (the hard way) that they really don't know them at all. That's where trust comes in.

You can't simply trust someone because you think you how they will behave in certain situations. You have to be sure. Being sure means you MUST have rules. Rules regarding what she can and can't do. Rules that will protect you from her should she decide something might be fun, when, in fact, for you it would be a nightmare. I'm not saying you need a contract, though that's not a bad idea. What you need is a check list. One that covers all the things that she could possibly do, or think of to do.

One place that has a great check list is Soul's Haven. At the very least, it's a great place to start. You mark things the way you feel about them giving your partner a guide to what she can do, what you like, love, or hate. She can choose things that you "sort of" don't want to do and use them as areas of growth, taking you into them slowly so as not to betray your trust, and yet, training you to enjoy some of the things she likes as well.

Before you rush headlong into chastity (or even BDSM) take a few minutes to fill out a checklist and let your Domme look it over. You'll be glad you did.

nemo

Other Times...

2011-07-16T11:22:00.000-04:00

Other times you should think before you speak, or act (as the case may be). For example:

And sometimes what seems like a good thing can turn out to be less of a thrill than you first thought. So think again...

I Wonder...

2011-07-15T09:47:00.000-04:00

All too often when we start something new, we don't realize just how much fun it really is. I guess what I am saying is... go ahead and give it a try. If you don't like it, you can always quit... or can you? Hmmm...

Sometimes...

2011-07-14T13:38:00.000-04:00

Sometimes it's best just to keep your mouth shut!

Just for Fun?

2011-07-13T09:00:00.000-04:00

You remember that saying, "Be careful what you ask for?" Well, if you are not into chastity, but you have been considering asking your partner about it, here is something to think about...

Think about it. What kind of women is your partner? Do you really want her to be your KeyHolder?

Now, sometimes, we think we know them Sooo well. But are you sure?

And did you really think those spikes would be a lot of fun, too?

...And are you SURE you know what you are asking for?

Precum Collection

2011-07-12T08:29:00.000-04:00

Yesterday's tiny teases consisted of a series of bedroom visits not unlike any other day's visits. Mistress would call me into the bedroom where I would find her sitting on the edge of the bed waiting. As soon as I close the door she would demand that I “assume the position”. By that she meant I was to stand right in front of her, drop my pants to my knees, and hike my shirt up to expose my nipples.


Now Charlie is currently not locked in his cage so she has total access to him. Mistress began to fondle Charlie and his two friends very, very gently. “I have an idea that I want to try once school starts and I have you at my mercy for eight hours straight every a day,” she began. She paused, waiting for Charlie to react a bit more to her fondling before she continued, which he soon did.

As Charlie began to swell and harden in her hand she continued. “Remember that cartoon you have on your computer that shows a guy all bound up with his cock dripping precum into a glass while he is forced to watch porno movies all day?” she asks.

“Yes, Ma'am,” I replied as a vision of the particular cartoon entered my head. That made Charlie react even more to her touch as he began to get hard.

“Oh, look!” Mistress exclaimed. “Charlie's getting all hard.” And with that she stood up and stepped away saying, “You can pull yourself together now.” Then she left the room.

Later, when I was called back into the bedroom for another tiny teasing, Mistress continued with her little tale of video torment and precum collection, once I was “in the position” again that is. This time, in order to get Charlie aroused a little faster, she stroked him slowly and steadily as she continued telling me about her diabolical plan.

“I am going to tie you to one of the straight-backed dining room chairs with your knees apart. Your arms will be bound to the chair so that you can't touch yourself,” Mistress began. “I will do this so that you are right in front of the TV in the living room,” she continued.

By this time Charlie was getting pretty hard so, again, she stood up and left the room while instructing me to get myself dressed. I was beginning to see how this precum collection thing was going to go down. I couldn't help thinking about the possibilities all day long.

Mistress called me into the bedroom four more times. Each time she would give me a few more details about her plan. She was even planning to put Charlie in his cage to make catching my precum even easier. Besides, in the cage, every time he starts to get hard (when the precum flows) he will be prevented by the little teeth in the cage. That means that she will be able to collect more precum because I will constantly be getting hard then soft, then hard again. Her plans even included hooking the PC up to the TV so that she can show me some of my favorite tease and denial videos on the web.

I don't know if she will ever actually carry out her plan, but I will definitely be looking forward to it if and when she does!

nemo

Tiny Teases

2011-07-10T09:49:00.000-04:00

One of the many things Mistress likes to do to keep me both horny and obedient, is to call me into the Master (Mistress?) bedroom ( or bath) and tease Charlie (remember Charlie? She named my cock Charlie because she was always saying, “sorry” to it) for a few minutes at a time. I call these “tiny teases” because they normally last no more than three to five minutes each. She will do this several times a day.

What normally happens is I am ordered to drop my pants so that she can see Charlie and, if she wants, fondle him. I must also hold my shirt up giving her easy access to my nipples as well. She will tease me verbally by telling me about plans she may have for some future date, or telling me a fantasy of hers.. Plans such as cuckolding me, or humiliating me in some way, or even new evil punishments she has concocted. The point is, whether I am caged or not, she can turn me on and keep my mind where it belongs... On HER!

Normally, all the trips to the bedroom in one day have the same general subject. For example: one day she may talk about how she plans to bring in another woman (anyone she chooses) to help her tease and humiliate me; or she may talk about how she intends to go about punishing me in the future. All these little teases serve to turn me on and to give me something to think about during the day. All I can say is, they work!

In the future I will tell you about some of these sessions in more detail.

nemo

Captions 1

2011-07-09T16:38:00.001-04:00

I said I was going to be doing some things differently. Well, here is one example.

I would love to be faced with tough decisions such as this. Let's face it, teasing is the best part of male chastity. I have high hopes that, once our child goes back to school next month, I may get my chance.

nemo

On Fantasies

2011-07-09T12:57:00.000-04:00

We men, submissive or not, seem to fantasize a great deal. We can't help it, it's just the way we were made. If we continue to fantasize about one thing, our fantasies become real desires. The more we think about a particular fantasy, it seems the more we “think” we want it to come true. But as we all know, the reality almost never lives up to the fantasy.

Let's take cuckolding for example. I, myself, have a few fantasies along those lines. I fantasize, for example, that Mistress takes on a second male slave and not only has sexual relations with him (making me watch, of course) but also forces me to participate in a bi-sexual way. By that I mean, I my have to clean her up after the other slave has intercourse with her, but I may also have to lick (or suck) him clean. I think any other type of cuckolding would be too much for me to handle.

However, if the relationship were purely a sexual one, and the other male and I were on the same footing (so to speak) I could, most likely, handle it. But if she were seeing him on the side, or if I thought there was more to their relationship than just a sexual one, I would, most likely, get very jealous and it could even ruin our marriage.

I have other fantasies that I would love to keep as fantasy for one reason or another, but I love it when Mistress teases me about making them come true. So I always tell her about all my fantasies, but I make sure she understands which I would never want to realize. Open communication is the best form of relationship strengthening I know of. It prevents so many things from going wrong that I could not begin to list them here.

Just a note: I am going to change the format of this blog just a bit. I will, in the future, be including more of the things that are going on in our daily lives. Some of you have indicated that you would be interested in that sort of thing, so, one way or another, I will try to include them. Thanks for reading!

nemo